What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Nurse’s Aid/Student
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Suppressed. I belong to a religion (one I always questioned) that condemns premarital sex and requires women to wear skirts at all times.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 4
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
Spring Break Virgin
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We were both freshmen in college at the time. He was white, 5’10”, had messy brown hair, and eyes that would make you melt. I knew him fairly well. We had gone to high school together and were acquainted there, but we really became good friends once college started. During our first semester, I develop a little crush on him but never acted on anything.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were both staying on campus for Spring Break. Neither of us had any desire to go back home. Since there were no classes and the campus was pretty deserted, we started spending all our time together. On the third day, we visited the local art museum. Seeing some of the nude people in the paintings made me a little adventurous, so I started stroking his chest suggestively. His response startled me, as he wrapped his arm around me and gave the waistline of my skirt a little tug. Then, as soon as the moment began, it ended. That night, we headed back to his dorm for dessert, but I knew we both wanted sex. The prospect of my first experience made me excited. All of his suite mates had gone home, so we had the entire common area to ourselves. He pulled out a bottle of liquor that he was saving for “a special occasion”. I had never drunk before, but I was able to take a few shots without too much trouble. Being drunk made us much more talkative, and we sat on the couch talking for a while until we went for the kiss. The rest unraveled from there.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Before I knew it, we were stripping each other on the way to his bedroom. He was more muscular than I thought, which only made me want to lose my virginity even more. Once we were there and fully naked, he started to go down on me, but I insisted I suck him off first. I had never had anyone do anything sexual to me, although I HAD sucked a few dicks in high school, so I figured I’d start off with what I knew. He came, I swallowed some and used the rest to lubricate him even more. This must have really turned him on, because he proceeded to flip me over, and slide his wet, still hard dick between my breasts. I didn’t even know that was a thing, but it felt really good. After doing that for a while, he started to finger me. I warned him I was still a virgin, so he promised to go slowly. He started with one finger, then gradually added more and went quicker. I felt like I was right on the brink when he stopped. When asked if I was ready, I practically begged him to fuck me. His first entry was painful, and there was a little blood, but as he kept going it became nothing but pleasure. I’m glad no one else was around because I was very vocal the entire time. My first orgasm washed over me like a wave. He pulled out and came all over me shortly after. We finished by making out and cuddling. I’m rather short, so feeling him spoon me was very comforting.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We both woke up hungover and had sex again to start the day. Our morning was spent recovering from the night before, pleasuring each other more, and having deep conversations. We slept together for the rest of the week, officially committed to each other on the last day of spring break, and have been dating seriously ever since. (He’s been eating me out while writing this entire story to “jog my memory”)
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my friends about my week with him and many were supportive, some even jealous. The girl who stayed on campus ended up having the best week.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It led to a serious relationship with someone I’ve come to love. I explored my sexuality and gained lots of confidence.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I broke the rules of my strict religion, which I still adhere to, minus the premarital sex restrictions.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It opened my eyes to how good sex can be when you’re with the right person. I gained confidence and we became closer as a result.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I don’t understand why casual sex is so frowned upon by society, especially my religion. I would like to see the stigma removed.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a good way to let people know sex is normal.
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