What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Midwest
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Questioning
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? …3?
Teen Male Virginity Story
How long ago did this hookup happen? a few months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’m now a sophomore in college, previously a virgin before this particular experience. I had taken the girl to a high school dance where we had messed around at the afterparty. We had also messed around at another party a while before that. I met her through mutual friends freshman year of high school.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There was no planning for any of the hookups, but after the first one I guess we could’ve expected another to happen if given the chance.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At those parties, what took place is we would make out, she’d blow me and (in the words of Jimmy Carr,) I’d finger-blast her.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt shame for a little while after but I got over it eventually. No hope for the future with this person. I hold no grudge against this person. I won’t act awkward around her if I see her. I did make some Eskimo brothers, one of whom was my very first best friend from since I was 4. So that’s cool.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat
Why do you regret this hookup? I regret that I’m not attracted to this person. I regret that (now I might sound ridiculous) I have been sinful, but that doesn’t bother me because my goal wasn’t to wait until marriage anyway. I’ve developed my own ideals as far as beliefs go.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I lost my virginity. But the best thing is that in the future I will have nothing holding me back from partaking in other random flings.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It’s okay to open up more. I’m withdrawn when it comes to sexuality, but I’m open minded. Just putting how I feel into practice is weird for me.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have been raised to view casual sex (and all sex outside marriage) as negative, but I can’t say what its actual effects on society are. They could very well be positive, but I think it comes down to the individual.
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