The Last Time

by Jenny

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? Black
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? US
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

The Last Time

How long ago did this hookup happen? 6 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Casually dating

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a handsome, tall, slim German man. We met on Tinder. We casually dated for months, then I moved to another city. He came to visit me in my new city. I really liked him, he was charming, extremely intelligent, amusing and sensual. I started to fall in love with him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The last time I saw him, he traveled from his city to mine to visit me. We chatted before on Whatsapp and made plans to reunite in my city, that he would visit and stay with me for four days. This was my idea. I think he was lonely and horny.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He arrived at my apartment and it felt amazing to see him after a few months of being apart. I also felt a little shy, but I was really horny and so was he. He came in, put down his stuff, and we sat on the couch. I noticed he had an erection and put my finger on it. He asked if we could go in my room. We took off our clothes, and he started going down on me. It felt really good. Then we did it missionary for a while. He lifted my legs and went really slow, and I came. I tried to be quiet because my roommate was home, but I couldn’t help myself. Then he came. It was great. He was amazing.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After we had sex that time during his visit, I knew I was in love with him. I hoped we could be together, or at least have a long lasting connection. Unfortunately, he returned back to his home city and started a new relationship. I was heartbroken.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a friend. They were supportive.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? He came to visit me and perhaps, we should have ended things as they were, without a reunion.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He knew how to make me come. He was an attentive and skilled lover.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That we could not be together in the end.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I was in love with him, which made the sex better.

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