Turned into a Three-Month Relationship



What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 40
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Mexico
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Housewife
What’s your current relationship status? Married with a hall pass
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Over 100
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Turned Into a 3 Month relationship

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Married with hall pass

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is Mexican. 5’8″, athletic, very handsome. Short hair, some tattoos, no piercings.

Met through Tinder and e-mailed / texted for a week. He seemed charming, inteligent, and. Very confident.

I felt good enough to meet him for coffee at a local club, (I don’t drink).

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We agreed to meet in a club, and get to know each other to see if we wanted to set a date for something more.

We wound up seeing each other in the parking lot before entering the club and he had me in a hotel room 15 minutes later.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Immediately after entering the room, he kissed me long and hard. I knelt in front of him and loosened his belt and found much more than I had bargained for.

I took him in my mouth for 5 or 10 minutes before he went down on me. He is very good at oral and brought me to orgasm. He let me recover for a few mintes before entering me vaginally and in a variety of positions until he came about 40 minutes and 2 later.

He recovered more quickly than I expected, and round 2 was a carbon copy of the first.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Cleaning up and preparing to leave the room, we agreed to meet again at my house later in the week. I was still a little unsteady when I got home late and told my husband that I wanted to keep this one.

We had sex on 9 or 10 other occasions in my home. It was dreamy each time, but J became too close over time, and I have no intention of leaving my husband.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Sterilization

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Power / Dominance, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My husband. He was happy it went so well for me and took me hard after I told him about it.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Other

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Sex with J is as good as any I’ve had

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Putting a stop to it.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, no change.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It has enhanced my sex life at home. It reminds both my husband and I that men continue to find me desirable – it’s an ego boost for me, and drives my husband to competitive heights.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? First visit, but appears fascinating!

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