Two People in a Strange Land…

by Sawyer

Age: 19
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: London, UK
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Religious affiliation: Athiest
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best: Pansexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Two People in a Strange Land…

How long ago did this hookup happen? About a month

How would you best classify this hookup? Holiday fling

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? So I was staying in a hostel in Japan with my best friend, who happened to be my ex. We’d met in this very hostel the last time we were here. It was near the end of our holiday and we were pretty nostalgic and tired when a sweet Canadian guy invited us out with the rest of the hostel to go to karaoke.

And that was when I met him. Tall and skinny – he must have weighed less than I did, easily, despite being a good eight inches taller than me. Droopy-at-the-corner stoner eyes and an Australian drawl. Dark hair to his shoulders, plugs in his ears and a tattoo on his wrist.  I was attracted to him instantly, but I’m not sure I made the best impression because I mocked his favourite band. The whole group of about 12 of us who were out were all pretty attractive, but he was gorgeous. I couldn’t stop staring at him.

As it was, we went to karaoke and got wasted. And sang Mulan. Arguably, it was agreeing to duet I’ll Make A Man Out Of You which really solidified my attraction to him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We’d been flirting pretty hard all through the night, but as I got steadily drunker it took me longer to realise. Up until he whispered in my ear that my ex had banned him from kissing me. Obviously, that drove me kinda crazy, and we ignored that. I think I knew then I was going to spend the night with him.

The group of us went to the park and played football, and all drifted to our various rooms in the hostel. Brazenly, I walked straight back to his. The hostel was tiny and cramped, and his bed was the bottom bunk, on the floor, with only curtains and the 4am time frame giving us any privacy.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He stripped down to his boxers, while I kept my clothes on. He pulled them off me one by one, nibbled on my body, and went down on me. I didn’t come, as I always find it really hard to, but it was pretty fun. However he was pretty impatient, forever asking me if I’d come yet.

He tried to penetrate me with my consent, but we had a sudden moment of realisation that actually we were lacking condoms and had to stop.

I gave him a titwank instead, and he admitted afterwards it had been his first one. Considering he had lost his virginity six years ago, it impressed me that he’d not had one before. Then again, it had only been my second. When you’re stuck with double-F cups, sometimes it’s nice to use them.

I left early the next morning as he was snoring in my ear, and he washed the sheets. We planned to get some condoms but it didn’t work out as we were both too busy. I saw him again the next night, and much the same thing happened again – though without the alcohol, on my part.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We were both clean of STIs, but we only found this out the next night. It was a pretty reckless night all round really, but I didn’t get pregnant so I guess it worked out alright.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? It was the end of my trip, and I wanted to end it doing something memorable. He was my 15-year-old self’s idea of the perfect guy, so it would have been churlish not to. And it gave me some bounce in my step, to think I nailed someone I was that attracted to.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? He was a lot drunker than I was, but we were both definitely in the “drunk” bracket.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the second night, it was time for me to catch my flight home. I woke up in his bed again, kissed him goodbye, and made a promise to chat on Facebook. He’s still in Japan, and I’m still liking all of his photos in a mixture of lust and jealousy. I talk to him sometimes, but he doesn’t really talk back.

If he’s ever in London, or I’m ever in Sydney, I’ll probably hit him up.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friend I was traveling with found out, and he was pretty upset with me for a few days. Because of the fact it had happened at the place where we met – in the same dorm where we had hooked up before we started properly going out.

Since I’ve got back to uni, pretty much my whole group of friends has found out. That’s how Never Have I Ever seems to pan out. They refer to him as my “beautiful Australian”.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? A little; I regret not being more pro-active and sorting out some protection. It would have been nice to actually had penetrative sex with him. And I regret making my best friend upset.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best: It was fun! And funny! And has given me some fun stories! And the confidence to have random one-night stand hook-ups with people I will probably never see again instead of trying to turn it into booty-calls or friends-with-benefits or something like that. It proved to me that sex can really just be sex.

Worst: I wish I could have spent just one more day in Japan, with him and my other new friends. It ended too abruptly.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative