What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 29
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Financial Advisor
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Adventurous
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40-50, not sure
How long ago did this hookup happen? Summer 2014
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was 5’6″, brunette, a Jersey girl, Italian, stylish, GREAT ass. I met her and her friend the day our group (a bachelor party with men and one woman) showed up at our resort in Cancun. It started when we simply struck up a conversation and apparently they remember us from the airport. She instantly caught my eye, short shorts will do that to me. We hit it off and said we would all meet back down on the beach after we unpacked.
After playing a little volleyball in the surf of the beach we both agreed how beautiful this place was. I then made an off-comment in a silly manner saying “We should all skinny dip tonight hahah” which she laughed and responded “Hell yea haha” with a smile.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Later that night we all went down to the biggest bar on our resort. When I saw her we started talking and then our group started getting shots of tequila. As we both took a few shots I thought it would could use some air outside. This worked out perfectly because you took a few steps off a stone patio and you were right on the beach. The moon lit up the white sand and to my amazement there wasn’t a soul out there!
That’s when I brought up “Oh man, now’s our chance. We can totally take a dip now” and “Hey, at least we can come back with a good story.” As we were walking down we were both gitty like we both pretending this was just going to be innocent. As we sat on the edge of some beach chairs she took her top off to prepare. It was now go time, we placed our hands at the top of our swim suits and counted down 3,2,1…GO!
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She slid off her bikini bottoms, I threw off my trunks and we both made a b-line into the water and started splashing around in the same direction. We probably weren’t in the water for more than a solid 10 seconds before we splashed over to each other and started making out. Right there I picked her up in a straddle position and watched her gasp as I slid in between her legs with one pelvic thrust. While fucking her I walked us over into a deeper part of the surf. I even had her from behind with the moonlight bouncing off that perfect ass.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day she, I, and our friends were all down at the beach. Apparently we weren’t that secretive about it and found out our friends SAW US the night before! We all had a good laugh, she and I also got props for being adventurous enough to do it. The whole rest of the trip we were constantly sneaking away and fucking on the beach, in our room, on the balcony. She truly was my “vacation girlfriend”. When we were leaving we both kissed goodbye in the lobby and I haven’t seen her since. However, we do keep in touch and I may see her in New York soon.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? All our friends the next morning, we were two fun-loving adults with nothing to hide.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Sex on the beach, prospect of getting caught, spontaneity, and an incredibly hot partner.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it had to end.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Maybe, in the sense that I can get it anywhere provided I find a like-minded individual.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex with a friend or a new person is very important, I consider myself to have a large sexual appetite.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Very revealing and honest.
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