What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I went on vacation with friends and he came along, without his wife. We met for the first time there. I could feel some sexual tension between us but didn’t make much of it because I knew he was married.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were all going to bed and he texted me outside of our usual group chat. He was being flirtatious and eventually invited me to his room for a massage. I was surprised but it turned me on instantly – I have to admit I’d been fantasizing about him the past few nights.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He started with a long full body massage that had me vibrating. The physical chemistry between us was incredible. It was so exciting to feel him, naked, on my back, dedicated to my pleasure. He kissed me and we started making out.
He asked me if he could lick it. I really wanted to say yes but felt I had to disclose that I tested herpes positive (HSV2) through a blood test even though I’ve never had an outbreak. That’s something that’s been holding me back from hooking up by fear of rejection. I also feel like that’s information a partner should have so they can make an informed decision.
He took it really well, thanked me for my honesty and started touching me again. He didn’t give me oral and we didn’t have penetrative sex but I came multiple times from his -very skilled- touch. I reciprocated and blew him until he came in my mouth. We talked about everything and nothing after and fell asleep in each other’s arms. We fooled around again briefly the next morning but had to meet up with our friends.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We had to sneak around the next day to make sure our friends didn’t find out. We hooked up again two more nights that week. I fully expected it to end there but he kept messaging and sending provocative pictures after we got back from vacation. He lives in another town but visited since and we’ve hooked up again.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Discussed STI testing history, No penetrative sex happened, No oral sex received
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Told a couple of friends who have no connection with him, happy I had some fun, a little worried I may get hurt long term.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The insane chemistry & how unexpected it was.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The physical connection we have is so good I’m concerned it may negatively impact my dating life.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It’s helping me get over my fear of rejection because of my herpes status.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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