Wasn’t To Be



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Scotland
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

wasn’t to be

How long ago did this hookup happen? around a month ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was sitting at the bar she works in drinking to feel better about being stood up, we got talking about anything an everything. We chatted for a few hours before exchanging numbers going and calling it a night that night. She was stunning, short red hair, slender build and around 5ft 5. We hung out again before the hook up.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? she came round to hang out at my place for a bit, no real planning involved just some music, pizza, a few drinks and some weed. We where just on the couch when she kissed me, it went from there.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? after an hour or so of heavy flirting we made out on the couch for a while with hands going everywhere, down pants, up shirts you get the picture. once we moved to the bedroom and the clothes came off we went down on each other for a while before her getting on top, grinding slow and building speed until we both came. The night didn’t end there though there was much more oral, fingering, hand jobs and full penetration.

We seen each other a few more time across a couple weeks before calling an end to it. She was incredible, I’d re live those two weeks in a heartbeat, I’ve never met someone so sensually charged.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day we went out and got breakfast, went a walk at the park and just enjoyed each other’s company. We never really spoke about starting anything serious we just enjoyed the ride, so to speak. we ended the fling because we wanted different things from life in the end, we have remained friends though and hang out semi regularly.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Spoke about it with a friend. He was happy for me because he knew it had been a while.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was quite possibly the best sex I’ve ever had.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It didn’t last longer/having to take breaks to go to work.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I was never against casual sex I just was never that interested in it myself, that’s no longer the case.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s great. Who doesn’t like to fuck?

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a great idea, if it helps to break the stigma regarding sexuality and the bond between consenting adults then its all good!

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!