What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Miami
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? free spirit
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 weeks ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Martin (not real name) is my hot golf instructor. I posted a previous story about how we met.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Quick update: My boyfriend got back together with Clair (his ex). After the split, I’ve had a few hook-ups on Tinder but nothing unique or exciting to post a story about.
Lately, I started hanging out with Martin. We play golf, go to baseball games and take walks at the beach. We cook together then sit outside and watch the sunset. My heart goes crazy when I’m with him. Each time we kiss, I feel a tingling up and down my spine. Recently, he’s been inviting me to play golf with his friends. By the way: They’re so cool to hang with and he’s lucky to have them as friends. They invited me to go on their ‘guys only’ fishing trip. One guy owns a huge boat docked in the bay. They get away from their wives and go fishing and drinking. I don’t like to fish but I was honored for the invite. I went to work on my tan and keep their drinks flowing.
Martin had a recent health scare which is the reason we haven’t been having sex. Being with Martin and not having sex has almost driven me insane. His kids don’t live close by so he asked if I would go with him to his Doctor’s visits. I agreed because I could tell he was worried and I was worried too. At the last visit, he got good news and they told him he only needs to take a mild medication with minimal side effects. The doctor was nice but spoke using very broken English. At the end, the Doctor asked if we had questions. I asked if Martin was healthy for sex. Martin gave me a quick look of shock. The Doctor was not shocked and with broken English said, “Yes, heart very healthy for sex.” Then, he asked if Martin needed an additional script for some ED medication. I quickly answered “Oh no, he’s good in that department.” Martin was embarrassed but the Doctor told him I brought up a very good question. Martin was relieved with his health news. I was excited because now we could have sex. We went back to his house, had passionate sex and he finished inside me. I’m on birth control but Martin had a vasectomy a long time ago so we agreed not to use condoms and I asked him to finish inside me.
My dad works for an airline and he’s gone 4 days at a time. When dad’s out of town I’ll stay with Martin. We cook dinner together, sit outside and kiss till it’s late. We have AMAZING passionate sex, shower and sleep in the same bed. He cleaned out some space and now I leave cloths when I stay with him.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? On a weekend dad was out of town, Martin surprised me with a late B-day gift. A weekend trip to a golf resort at Key Largo. We arrived in our room and there was a large bouquet of red roses with a birthday card and a gift card to the resort day spa. There was a hand written note explaining another gift would come later. It was so thoughtful, I had happy tears. I jumped up on him, we kissed then immediately had passionate sex! OMG I had two orgasms! WHEW!
Saturday, we played golf then I used my day spa gift card. I brought a LBD with heels to wear for dinner. At dinner, he had the waiter bring me a rose with a small gift. It was a bracelet. We danced then went back to our room and had slow passionate sex until we were both spent. Sunday morning, we attended mass at a local church then drove back.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I think this trip has brought us closer. We both agree we have strong feeling for each other and we want to see where it goes.
I find myself spending all my spare time with him now and I’m still staying with him while dad’s away at work.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Sterilization
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Beck. She’s happy for me. She thinks Martin is HOT and glad I’m connecting with a mature gentleman.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I began having strong emotional feelings for him after this trip. The sex was amazing too!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing. Everything was GREAT!
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I haven’t hooked up with anyone else since our weekend get away and I don’t feel the need to. Martin is the perfect gentleman and right now, I want to spend all my spare time with him.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Words can’t describe how amazing this trip was. I didn’t want it to end! I’m glad he’s agreed to pursue a relationship with me. Since he’s had a vasectomy, I’ll probably stop taking birth control.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve met some wonderful people and made good friends by having casual sex with them. I wish society was more open to people having sex with each other.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great place to share stories. I enjoy reading other people’s experiences.
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