Welcome to College

by Melody

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Seattle
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? musician
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Welcome to College

How long ago did this hookup happen? a couple of months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Beautiful blonde barefoot flower boy. His style was a perfect mix of outdoor adventure and soft 90’s punch. His face might be prettier than mine; his masculine nature and body quite pleasing. We met on one of the first days of college orientation and had a jam session in the woods at a gathering. I definitely felt an attraction to him but had a boyfriend back home and wasn’t at all interested in love/love affairs at the time.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? One day I saw him at the spot we first met with lots of people around but this time the attraction was much stronger. I don’t really believe in resisting these urges so I laid down with him and we instantly started cuddling/kissing. After that we exchanged numbers and spent the day together with some other friends. That night we decided to go to a party. There was definitely no planning involved but after we got to the party I realized that I pretty much just wanted to be with him and, by this time in the day, I wanted him pretty bad. We snuck off and started making out and feeling each other all over. In my head I knew I’d be willing to have sex if it got to that point. I guess it was me who instigated it up to this point. Then he says “I really wanna fuck you right here” and without saying it I’m kinda like “yeah, no, we’re not fucking at this party.” So I follow him off to the dorms. After we’d both established that our roommates were home, he suggests we have sex in his dorm common room…which I agree to after realizing he was serious.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The sex was pretty awesome. I knew from earlier’s feel-ups that he had a pretty huge penis and I wasn’t sure if it was going to work. But we fucked, semi-quickly and quietly, on a couch with him standing over me and me on my back in the dark. It was around 4 AM I think? It definitely took a little bit of effort to get his large dick inside of me, and if I recall correctly he had some condom issues. I was just happy he had condoms (1 condom), me not being on birth control and not planning to have sex due to my boyfriend back home. He was a good lover, I didn’t orgasm but he had very lovely energy. The whole day was filled with laughter and jokes and lust. He came and I was very tired since it was late so I didn’t mind not coming. It was still fun.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterwards I bluntly told him I was going to bed in my room and invited him which he excitedly took me up on. It was pretty exciting to wake up with him. I didn’t have any expectations or hopes, it was just something that randomly happened as a result of me following my instinct. I had no idea where the relationship would go if anywhere and it was perfectly wonderful in that position. I felt cool as a cucumber just letting the situation be and take its course. Also I had a boyfriend at home so this was a point of me realizing that wasn’t going to work and I needed to let that go and break up with him. The occurence has now blossomed into a beautiful relationship featuring the best sex I’ve had yet.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Making new friends

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My roommate, she was happy for me and slightly surprised.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He ASKED first and it was very spontaneous.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? It was in a dormitory common room and therefor wasn’t as romantic/lengthy as it could have been.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It makes me feel like attraction doesn’t lie…trust your gut.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex in generally overrated I think. Love making is where the real magic happens. But casual sex is beneficial at times, such as when you need sex but don’t want a relationship. Or when you’re in a relationship but need to break the routine or change it up a bit.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? very interesting. enlightening, in a way.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!