When I Was Raped By A Guy From Tinder

by Natalie Osman

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 17
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Auckland
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Muslim
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

When I Was Raped By A Guy From Tinder

How long ago did this hookup happen? 9 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a 28 year old nicely built, married (had no idea before we hooked up) guy from South Africa with green eyes! We met over tinder and he was initially afraid to see me because I was 16 but he took me out for lunch and kissed me goodbye when he dropped me home. I thought he was nice and I could trust him.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The Friday following our lunch date he wanted to take me out and I told my parents I was going to sleep over at a friends house. He picked me up from school and drove down to this remote beach where we started drinking.

Since we had drunk quite a bit he suggested we leave the following day, so we ended up at this lodge in the middle of pretty much nowhere. We downed so many shots before he asked me to smoke weed with him for the first time. He was blowing smoke rings into my mouth and that’s when he decided to kiss me, I was feeling super dizzy and I wanted to lie down so I went to lie down on the bed.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He then tried to kiss me and feel me, to which I kept saying, “give me 5 minutes,” because I wanted to lie down. But then he got naked and pretty much shoved his penis in my mouth without warning, he was literally face fucking me for the most part until he finished on my face. After that, he reached into his wallet, flipped me around, put on a condom and started penetrating me while I was lying in bed asking him to stop! Before he finished again, he took off his condom, shoved his penis down my ass with so much force and his entire body on my back I could do nothing but scream till he ejaculated in my ass.

I was crying and when he saw that he was very apologetic and because of the intimate stories I’ve shared with him about rough sex. He said he was sorry and went to his car and came with with a morning after pill, which he told me to take because “apparently” he only had 1 condom with him.

So this lead to a drug fueled night of him pretty much him using me as a sex slave for the weirdest stuff while on viagra. He was using a white powdery stuff up his nose, which at the time I had no idea it was cocaine and I refused when he initially offered it to me. He made me do the weirdest stuff like licking his ass while I stroked his penis, which was gross. He pissed in my mouth without warning and he made me suck his dick while he was taking a dump!!!!!!
I remember him getting off 14 times. I once woke up to him in me in the middle of the night while I was asleep.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all

Did you have an orgasm? I don’t know

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I’ve lost all contact with him, it was a quiet ride back home and I never wanna see him ever again!

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Revenge / Getting even, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Cocaine

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Very much

Why do you regret this hookup? Because he raped me!

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Nothing

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Everything

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I don’t know

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative

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