What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 55
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Obsessed
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? North of 70
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 4 or 5
With An American girl In Lima, Peru
How long ago did this hookup happen? Over 2 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? That story happened in January 2017. I was in Lima, Peru, to attend a Spanish immersion school. I stayed in Lima for one month. I had rented a flat, on Airbnb, in Lima’s “upscale” district of Miraflores. This district is full of nice bars and restaurants. Pretty much every night I’d go out, trying my luck with some Peruanas. Up until that story, I could not hook up with anyone. Despite my repeated failures, I nevertheless managed to find an interesting spot called Son de Cuba, a sort of disco-bar playing latino music (reggaeton, salsa, etc.), where I ended up spending most of my evenings during my stay in Lima.
In my second week of school (intermediate Spanish class), many new students arrived in my class, including an ordinary looking American woman named Kathy. During the breaks and lunch periods, Kathy and I started to chat, politely, and with no after thoughts (in my case). Kathy was there with her boyfriend, Steven, who was studying Spanish in the beginner’s class. They were in their early 30s, and they were from the Seattle area. Kathy had a somewhat okay face, large hips, strong legs and a small chest – essentially a pear-shaped body. Maybe after 10-12 months spent alone on a deserted island I could feel an attraction to her, but otherwise, she was not my type.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? On the Thursday, Kathy and Steven invited me to join them for the evening, to have a few drinks at this (apparently) very nice bar that they had discovered. Since I had absolutely no luck meeting Peruanas at the Son de Cuba place where I was hanging usually, I thought why not. So I went with them to this bar, which turned out to be boring and where nothing, I mean absolutely nothing, was even close to be exciting. Oh well, I thought, I had two weeks left in Lima; I had plenty of time to catch up. The following day, Friday, they invited me out again. I told them that they should try something different and I mentioned the Son de Cuba disco-bar. Long story short, we ended up there around 10:00 pm. The minute she stepped in, vanilla Kathy morphed into, well, someone else. She fell in love with the music and she began to celebrate her newly discovered joie de vivre by drinking glasses of Pisco Sour like there was no tomorrow. She also started to “dance”, if you can call jumping-everywhere-and-anywhere-offbeat-like-nobody-is-fucking-watching, dance.
At around 2:00 am, Steven wanted to leave, and Kathy was quite drunk. They could have called an Uber, but they wanted to walk instead. Since their flat was at a distance, I told them that they could come to my own flat, which was only 10 minutes away, with the hope that Kathy could sober up a little in the process. When we got to my flat, I sat on one of the living room’s couch and, very quickly, Kathy began to get flirtatious and uncomfortably close to me. I told Steven about it, attributing Kathy’s behaviour to her drunkenness, and his answer stunned me: it’s okay; we’re an open couple…
I. Didn’t. See. That. Coming.
I said “You sure?” And he said yes. His answer must have sounded like a code or something because immediately after, Kathy got on her knees in front of me and started to rub my dick over my pants. She then asked me: “what, are you shy?” For good measure, Steven added “don’t worry bro, I like to watch anyway”.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Alright then, said one of my organs (maybe my brain, most probably my penis). I unzipped my pants, pulled my purple soldier out, put my right hand behind Kathy’s head and pushed it hard over my then flaccid dick. Her bj technique was awful, I could barely feel a thing and couldn’t get my dick up. After a few minutes, I told them: “I can’t do this, I can’t have sex with the guy watching. So either Kathy and I go in the bedroom and Steven, you watch TV or something, or we put an end to this”. Kathy looked at Steven and he told her: “Yeah, you can go”. And so we did.
As soon as we were in the bedroom. I sat Kathy on the bed, stood in front and started to fuckface her. She took it like a pro. When I finally got it hard, I turned her around, on her four, and started fucking her. Her vagina felt like a cavern. Again, although I was rock solid, I could barely feel a thing, but she enjoyed herself. As I was fucking her, I got more and more excited by the sight of her big ass and I was able to fuck her harder and harder. She climaxed. After which, exhausted, Kathy let her shoulders down on the mattress, which further exposed her big ass. That was my cue: I pulled out of her vagina, got on top of her, and slowly put the head of my dick into her ass. Not too deep, since we had no lube, but just enough so that she let go of a little “ouch”, and 30 seconds later I was shooting my load in her anus.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the sex, Kathy soon fell asleep in the bed. I went in the living room, where Steven was also sleeping on the couch. I woke him up and told him to go sleep with his girlfriend. He managed to zombie his way to the bedroom and I managed to sleep a few hours on the couch. The next morning, they left at around 8:00 am. We only shared a few words.
I didn’t know what to expect when I’d see them again at the school the following Monday. Well, they never showed up. I later learned that they had changed their plans and went on to study Spanish in Cuzco. I will never know if it was planned that way or if they changed their plans because of, well, me.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, I was feeling lonely, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody, I’m very secretive about my sex life.
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Well, I had no real physical attraction to this girl. I regret that I did not respect that.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was my first sex in over 4 weeks.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not much.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Well, it seems that my dick is more powerful than my brain, sometimes.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I like it a lot, but some of the stories seem made up.
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