What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 75
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Sydney
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Retired
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Married homosexual. Despite enjoying marital sex hugely my attraction has always been to my own sex, the male body and its attributes
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Lost count
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? One
How long ago did this hookup happen? 37 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Paid sex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him that day. He was a young, slender, smooth handsome guy with a smallish cock surrounded by a full dark bush. We met in a Bangkok brothel. I have never forgotten him or the impact he had on my sexuality.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It really started when I feeling horny during a business trip involving several months separation from my wife. I masturbated endlessly, more often than not to memories of teenage sex with my male peers and hookup in my early 20s with an old school friend when we had started fucking each other again after a break of 5 years. I felt needed more satisfaction than my hand alone offered, so asked a taxi to take me to one of the live shows that i had heard of. I entered an enclosed space with men seated in chairs in a circle around a central stage, like a boxing ring. An Asian woman entered the ring, clothed followed by a young man. They danced around, undressed each other and climbed on a bench that had been moved to centre stage. The man played with the woman’s body, she played with his cock till it hardened while he fingered her vagina. Finally he mounted her and they fucked first in the missionary position, then various till they ended without cumming and left. Many of the men around me had their cocks out masturbating, a couple ejaculated, all of which aroused me further. There was a large wet spot at the top of my boxers. The taxi, which had waited, asked if I wanted to see more. I opted for a porn movie. He took me to what turned out to be a brothel.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was ushered into a lounge room, where i insisted I just wanted to watch some porn. As I watched, playing all the time with my cock, I declined persistent offers of a girl. With the moral ambiguity displayed throughout my life I persuaded myself that i didn’t want to cheat with another woman,, but when asked if I wanted a boy my rejection must have sounded less emphatic and moments later i was aware of a handsome young man at my side. His hand reached over and felt my hard cock inside my trousers. I offered no resistance. I felt him unzip my fly and his hand close around my cock.. He stood, motioned me to follow, led me to a small room with a bed where he moved close, felt me up through my still open fly and proceeded to undress me. He was wearing only a T-shirt and shorts which I slipped off till we both stood naked in a warm embrace. His cock was erect, I masturbated it, felt his balls, ran my hand over his body as he did the same to me. We fell on the bed. He lay on top of me, our cocks pressed between our bellies. He placed his cock between my thighs and began to fuck me, then rolled off onto his front offering me his arse. I had not fucked a man since the last encounter with my old school friend 15 years earlier. Fucking cunt since that time I had found profoundly more satisfying, physically, so, together with fear of STD I was not tempted, although psychologically aroused to bursting point. I slipped my now rigid cock, wet with precum between his thighs and began to fuck him. Within seconds i experienced a mighty, shaking orgasm, my body shaking as i came, convulsed with the force of my ejaculation. My spunk coated his cock and balls which I fondled as he, to my surprise, masturbated to his own climax, as my own cock softened between his legs. Having no common language we did not talk, cleaned up, I paid the bill and left.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? For me the hookup was both physically and, more importantly, psychologically satisfying. Back at the hotel I relived the scene as I masturbated to 3 or 4 more climaxes. I realised then, and even more subsequently as I recalled every detail of that night, that his was a significant milestone along the journey to accepting my homosexuality.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one for many years until I confided it to another partner.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Coming to terms with deep seated needs
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The beginning of the end of denial of my homosexuality and giving looser reign to satisfying it.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Very much as outlined above.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is part of the human condition. For the bisexual man, or married man with “tendencies”as they were called in my youth, they represent perhaps a great challenge than for married heterosexual men.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? When i was 20 I read the Kinsey report on male sexuality which was a breakthrough for me in understanding my sexual behavior and resolved many issues such as guilt over masturbation so the better we understand human sexual behavior as revealed by this project the better off we are.
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