Hazy Memory



What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Phys Therapy
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I’m a man that exclusively loves women.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 200+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Hazy Memory

How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Paid sex

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a stripper at a popular club, a curvy ebony beauty with massive breasts. She wore cat eye lenses and a skin-tight leopard print outfit that outlines all of her piercings.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was out celebrating with a friend. We had just completed a significant medical training course. We bar hopped a bunch, asking taxi cabs which spots were popular. We got drunk and that only got worse after every bar. One cab drove us to club paradise for free. I was just sitting there in front of the stage not trying to puke or make a scene. Kitty approached me. She sat in my lap.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Kitty approached me, sat in my lap and began to grind. She offered a quick lap dance to tease me because it was painfully obvious I wasn’t mentally “there.” I agreed to pay something like 20 bucks for it. I passed out, only waking to see her riding me cowgirl while another stripper was sucking on my balls. Luckily I did see she placed a condom on me. I never consented to this, honestly. I did enjoy it. She told me she didn’t find many Latinos with an 8-inch cock, and as she finished that statement, my drunk awareness returned and that whiskey dick phenomenon kicked in. I couldn’t stop laughing at myself. She wasn’t too happy. She got off and pulled out a baggy of some white powder, placed some on my soft cock and snorted from head to base. I didn’t realize what it was at first. I offered to redeem myself by pounding her doggy but she said no. She did clean me up; I never nutted. Then she brought me to the atm and demanded 400 dollars for her and her stripper friend. I never paid for sex before and never intended to pay for anything other than a lapdance. But it was that or ride home with their coke dealers. I quickly paid and left the club. Some low rider pulled up and all the strippers ran out with their wads of cash buying these white powder baggies from these two creepy guys in the open public parking lot.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was surprised this lady was concerned about safety and put a condom on me. I wasn’t so concerned. I did get blood tests out of precaution twice a month for 6 months in case they did more to me and I wasn’t conscious to remember. I was and still, am clean. I tried to look her up on the company website to see if more memories came to mind just by looking at her face. I discovered there was a major drug bust a few months later and the whole place was closed.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method

What were your motives for this hookup? Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it

How intoxicated were you? Completely wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? I don’t know

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Cocaine

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I was too out of it / passed out / asleep and therefore unable to give consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my closest buddies. They all laughed at me when I mentioned my whiskey dick situation. I got a bunch of high fives. I didn’t tell anyone else.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? I would never pay for sex. I was forced to pay for services rendered when I never asked or approved. Some may call this rape, I’m not one to make a huge deal and go public about my hurt little feelings. It happened, I kind of enjoyed myself, I dealt with it. I wouldn’t want it to happen again like this BUT the idea of a woman going great lengths to have sex with you is sort of flattering. I just won’t pay for it.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I was surprised my unconscious body was able to maintain my hardon at all. I also had a moment of laughter when that didn’t last very long.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? non-consent. lost money I had saved for something else.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Learned something cool about myself. Had a fit of laughter shortly after.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Her stripper friend was way hotter, she mentioned birthing 3 children via cesarian, without any visible scars from the actual procedure. She was also very wet and tight. Thing is I don’t know how much of anything she told me that night was true.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is generally a great way to get out there, network, meet a plethora of individuals one of which may just be the fabled “one.” I have met many networking opportunities through casual dating and sex. I don’t agree with people hoping to someday meet the “one,” by sitting on their ass complaining about how hard it is without stepping foot outside of their door.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? great way to get stories out there, educate others on possibilities that some may never have thought probable.

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