What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 52
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Austin, Texas
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Housewife
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? Over 12 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Paid sex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was a handsome and outgoing guy a few years older than I was at the time. My husband worked for him part-time for him on Sundays to make some extra money. He had been over to our house a few times to watch football and bbq.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? At the time our phone was discontinued and he said he that he had stopped by to leave a message for my husband. He asked if we could use a little extra money while staring at my breasts. I asked him how.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He took charge, orally satisfying me before giving my vagina a wonderful workout.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt like I cheated on my husband. Although my husband wanted me to have sex with other men, I never told him when I did.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? I thought it was an important experience to have, I was feeling lonely, Material rewards (gifts, money, drinks, dinner, etc)
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? My husband would have been upset.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my mother and father.
They gave me their blessing.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? His boss returned to our house many times while my husband was away working for him. He knew it was safe and that my husband wouldn’t be coming home.
He made sure I understood that my body was the only reason my husband had a job.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The money and travel.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The group sex he set up. Both of his brothers worked for the police department and I became their sex toy.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I wouldn’t repeat it. It was a different time in my life and the money gave my children a much better time.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love casual sex. I still enjoy it with several married men on a regular basis.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I just found it this morning and I am looking forward to enjoying the Casual Sex Project.
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