What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 43
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I like Pussy.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? At least 13
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 25 years ago (At least)
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was my best friend and we were very close. I met him at church, a very sexually oppressive environment. I never had any sexual interest then or now.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It began at a sleepover in our teenage years. We were masturbating under the sheets watching straight porn while my parents were asleep upstairs. There was no planning involved, at least not in the way I remember it and my friend initiated it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We both hesitantly agreed to help each other get off as long as we didn’t tell anyone. We also agreed that there was nothing between us romantically. No kissing, cuddling, or anything of that nature. We agreed to engage in oral sex, mutual masturbation, and frottage. We discussed anal sex but I was flat out against it. Out of curiosity, he swallowed and didn’t like it and I took in a load or two only because he came without warning while I was either sucking or jerking him off. I enjoyed having him suck me off every time but I didn’t like sucking his cock or even touching him. I only did it to him as to return a favor. It felt very strange to do this kind of thing with another male since I am not sexually attracted to guys. We did this over the course of a year or so when we could. There were no strange feelings between us nor did it affect our friendship. I wouldn’t consider him a good lover because to me he wasn’t a ‘Lover’ but I did enjoy the pleasure I received. We never discussed what we did outside of that environment. We stopped pleasuring each other when we sort of grew out of it and started getting pussy on a regular basis.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? This was more of a mutual masturbation thing. There were no expectations of a romantic relationship and neither of us wanted one. At the time, we were being sexually oppressed by our environment and it was almost impossible to get with a female sexually so we went to each other for sexual release. The two of us remained friends and this experience in no way yielded any awkwardness between us, we just never talk about it.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? It was a hesitant agreement.
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? He initiated but it wasn’t anything remotely having to do with a romantic or physical attraction.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I never told a soul about it.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? 100% confirmation that I do not like men nor have the desire to be with a guy.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Having him shoot his load in my mouth unexpectedly
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? A little. I don’t think that sexual behavior defines sexuality.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We were just two guys wanting sexual release. That’s all this was. We had no female partners or girlfriends to sleep with. We were both virgins and inexperienced. We used each other as a means of climaxing to see what it would be like with another person.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? This experience really did not shape my attitude towards casual sex. I’d much prefer to be with one woman for as long as possible and only have sex with that woman. However, since I am single casual sex with the right woman is not beyond my scope.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting. A little different than most of the other places of similar interest on the web.
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