by La Muse
Current location: Canada
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Relationship status: In a relationship
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years ago
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? one night stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? An ex-boyfriend who had recently reconnected with me on fb. He was tall (over six feet) and worked out a lot. He was also the kind of guy that was horny 24/7. We never really got along outside of the bedroom, but the sex was the best I ever had.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? At the time this hookup took place I had just moved in with my current boyfriend (we have been together for five years, and this took place four years ago). My current relationship is the best overall relationship I have ever had (but not the best sex), but the odd thing is that my boyfriend is completely unlike any guy I had ever dated before. He is the sweetest nicest guy ever whereas previously I had always fallen for the “bad boy” type. Anyways, one day out of the blue an ex boyfriend of mine – I’ll call him Christian – sent me a friend request on fb and when I accepted it, he sent me a message saying he was visiting (from Switzerland, which is where I previously lived when I dated him) and could he stay for a few days at my place. I felt a bit awkward because I really didn’t want to say no, but I had just moved into a one bedroom apartment with my bf, and I only had a couch for him to sleep on. I was also a bit worried about the dynamic between my current bf and my ex. Well I asked my bf if he thought it would be ok, and to my surprise he not only accepted for my ex to stay with us, but seemed almost curious or excited about meeting an ex of mine. And this is where the story gets weird. When I mentioned to my bf that it might be inconvenient to have a guest sleeping on the couch in the living room for a few days, my bf said offered to sleep on the couch himself and let me and my ex share the bedroom to allow our guest “more privacy”. I remember I was left totally speechless by this suggestion but also recall feeling some odd accompanying adrenaline rush or tingling excitement, mixed with a lot of confusion, about the implication of what my bf had suggested. The next day, I decided to confront him directly about it. Basically my bf said he “wouldn’t mind” if something were to happen between me and my ex. during the visit, and he would be happy to sleep on the couch, to allow us freedom in case sparks were to fly. I was totally floored as nothing like this had ever been suggested to me, and all the guys I ever knew or spoke to were extremely jealous and possessive when it came to women and would want to kill any other guy that touched their girl. It was like all of my assumptions about what is normal were turned upside down. Anyways, I drove to the airport to pick up my ex, and on the ride back to my apartment I decided to drop the bomb. If he wanted to he could sleep with me during his visit. His jaw dropped and for a moment he was as speechless as I was when my bf and told me. Then he said “Are you sure this is ok with him?, What’s in it for him? Does he want to participate or something?” I told him that nothing like that had been discussed, but that we should just let whatever happens, happen. At that point I has very mixed feelings. At first I had been kind of shocked by the whole thing, but gradually, almost despite my better judgement, I began feeling more and more turned on by the idea of hooking up with my ex, especially since my bf said he was ok with it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Nothing happened for the first night. I was pretty tired, and he was feeling pretty whacked by the flight and the time distance. The next day we spent sight seeing together and in the evening we went out for dinner (just the two of us.) At the dinner we were served by a very hot waiter and I began flirting with him. To my surprise my ex bf was annoyed by this and said to me “do you have to be so obvious?”. It was almost like he was jealous or something which for some reason turned me on. When we arrived home – quite late – my bf was already asleep and the lights were turned off. My ex and I quickly got ready for bed, and as we lay in bed chatting all of a sudden he turned to me and said “doesn’t it turn you on for us to be so close again?” I replied by kissing him on the mouth, and things got heated pretty fast. My bf, for all his good qualities, is pretty hopeless in bed, and when I started making out with my ex, all the memories of being held in the arms of a strong man, and feeling at once vulnerable but protected came flooding back. After kissing passionately for a few minutes he started licking and sucking my breasts. Every time his lips came in contact with my skin it was like electric shocks of pleasure. Then he began pushing my head down and I knew he wanted me to blow him. The funny thing was that I used to hate giving him bj’s when he were together (and I don’t think I have even given my current bf a bj even once) but when he started pushing my head down, I was incredibly turned on. He began fucking my face really hard, grabbing my head from behind and forcing it so deep I could hardly breathe. When I could hardly take it anymore he threw me down on the bed and began fucking me missionary. I had forgotten how good it felt just to lie down and be fucked by a strong, powerful man who really knew how to use his cock. I had my orgasm before him and when I did I nearly passed out. I was trembling and moaning uncontrollably, and barely aware of my surroundings. It was like some out of body experience where I was floating and had this wonderful feeling of releasing – of letting go. I have no idea how long this state lasted, but when I came back to reality I realized that my ex still had not come and was still pounding me hard. He was panting pretty heavily though and so I knew he was close. All of a sudden a cold sweat came over me and I realized that we had forgotten to even think about protection. Was he going to come inside me? I had a moment of panic, but then all of a sudden he pulled out of me and with a few jerks of his hand, sprayed his cum all over my stomach and breasts. He collapsed beside me and for some reasons started to laugh. He told me it was amazing and that he since we had broken up he had often fantasized about sleeping with me again. It took him a moment to return to normal but when he did he called out “Hello! Do we have a spectator?” As I looked up, I saw the bedroom door swiftly shut. My ex leaped out of bed and ran to the door and when he opened up he said “Hey, don’t be shy! Were done now! You can come in” Then my bf appeared at the door. I had never seen him so embarrassed and uncomfortable looking before. I don’t know how much he had seen, but I felt suddenly really sorry for him and embarrassed as well. Then to my utter disbelief, my ex said to my bf “Hey I left a present for you, I want you to lick it up.” I didn’t know what he meant at first, but i guess my bf understood right away because without hesitating he came on the bed and kneeling, began to lick up my ex’s cum from my stomach and breasts. I couldn’t believe what was happening, but later my ex told me he found it hilarious but also kind of a turn that my bf had to taste his cum. After that we all just went to bed and oddly enough the next day none of us even mentioned what had happened the night before, we were all just too embarrassed, I guess.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes, and Yes.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? None, and No. I should have though…
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I guess opportunity creates the thief…
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Some drinks at the restaurant before, no drugs.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After he went back home, my ex wrote to me hoping to turn this into a regular “friends with benefits” kind of arrangement. But I didn’t want to. For me it was ok to experiment, and it was very good sex, but to continue with it would somehow be incompatible with the person I want to be. I was also worried that it would, over the long term, have a negative impact on my relationship with my current partner. Although I was kind of turned on at the time when my ex made my bf lick/clean up his cum, after I felt weird about this too.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes and Yes.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was wonderful sex, but I wouldn’t do it again. Maybe I am getting more conservative as I grow older.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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