What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 26
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? The Netherlands
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Anthropologist
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 23 men, 7 women
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Stranger in the Night
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was originally from Mexico City, at the time living in Belgium and having a holiday with his Belgium friend in the small ‘gezellige’ dutch city where I live. He was a bit tanned, he had dark wavy hair and the brightest light brown eyes I had ever seen. He was very jovial, kind and had this fire inside with a sparkling energy. He was the same height as me, and his arms and belly felt really strong and muscular. We talked to each other in different languages; a little bit of Spanish, a little bit of Dutch, mostly French and English if we couldn’t find the words.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was a very strange and unplanned encounter, something I otherwise wouldn’t have done it. My sister, another friend and me went to my place after we went for a drink in the city. We sat at the kitchen table, played some music and talked while enjoying a beer. I live in a small, although three stories high, typically dutch house in the city centre, surrounded by different bars and cafes. It was approximately 01:00 when two guys knocked at the window, I opened the door and there were standing two guys my age, both quite handsome looking. They asked if I knew of any party around, but I didn’t feel like having to spent hours at a bar, only to return with the Mexican after that, so I invited them in to join us for a beer, after the consent of my sis and friend. After I talked with the Mexican guy; Pepe, he played some salsa music and we started dancing, luckily I took some dance classes and he was a really good leader, it was probably one of the most sensuous dances I ever had. We couldn’t stop talking while my sis, friend and the Belgium guy got really tired. I told the Belgium guy he could sleep over in the spare room in the attic and my sis and friend headed to my bed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Pepe and me went upstairs to the first floor where I have a huge blue IKEA couch. He started to kiss me very carefully, almost as if he was wondering if I was ok with it. He stopped and smiled with a ‘I dare you’ look. I kissed him back and pushed him on the couch. I unbuttoned his shirt and had to stare for a bit; he was very muscular, no hair and he had a very soft skin. Almost as if he walked out of a very handsome underwear for men advertisement, you know what I mean. I started kissing him in his neck, his hands were stroking my hair, I was very very turned on, especially when I felt his promising erection to my vagina, separated by our jeans. I licked and kissed his beautiful upper body right above his penis. He was moaning from desire, but I interrupted and stood up. I have a very strict rule; first you give me some, then, if it’s good I will give an awesome blowjob. I started undressing and when I was fully naked, I got back on top. He squeezed my full round breasts and licked my nipples. I pushed him backward and crawled upwards, he grabbed my big butt and started licking my clit. I felt like the luckiest women on earth on that moment, it was so good and when I wanted to get of because I felt a bit uncomfortable, he tightened his grip and intensified his licking until I came in very long and multiple waves. It was my turn and I took the time to treat his penis, starting of with a bit of teasing, sucking at the tip of his penis, while slowly giving in.
Most of my girlfriends hate to give blowjobs, I must honestly say, I love it and it turns me on big time. I didn’t overestimate his dick by the feel of his erection, it was really large and thick as well, lucky me. I wanted to continue forever, but he took my head between his hands to make me stop, because he almost came. We took a short cigarette break in the kitchen to cool down, but that only lasted for a few seconds, we ran upstairs again, laid on the couch, kissing and touching each other. I was on top again, but he took me with a tight grip and laid me down on the couch. I started to get nervous because I just broke up with my crazy ex girl so I didn’t have any condoms at home, did I ruin what could have been one of the best nights of my life? I asked him, do you have any? Without replying he took one from the pocket of his jeans and still fully erect he did the job, licked me some more and finally entered me. The first moment when he came inside me felt heavenly, I couldn’t withhold a loud moan. He was very fit and in shape and moved like a Greek god combined with the sensuous of a salsa dancer. It was terribly good. He fucked me so intensely, switching tempos from very fast to slow, touching, kissing, licking, feeling, slowing down to postpone his orgasm. He gave me an even intenser orgasm than he did while orally satisfying me. I went on top and fucked with all I had, until we both came. We went back to the kitchen, smoked another cigarette, drank another beer, talked some more and started all over again when our kissing in the kitchen got out of hand. We started with oral again, then every position I know passed the review. I came six times, he came two times and finally when the sun started to rise I fell asleep in his arms on the big blue couch.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? When I woke up the guys were gone. He left me a note saying thank you for the splendid night and wrote his name and surname down, no number, unfortunately. I tried to look him up on Facebook, but apparently, every fucking Mexican has the same name as him, so eventually I gave up, trying to keep this memory in my mind to think about on rainy days.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My girls and sister, positive
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The time it took; fucking from 04:00 until 06:00 with a break in between.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I couldn’t find him online.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, I feel comfortable and sexual. I have my boundaries and I will always make sure I come before the sex stops.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? In three months I will move to Mexico City :P. Maybe I’ll meet another Pepe.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Shit that people are easily stigmatizing women as sluts, come on we all have needs.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? great.
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