What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? UK Brighton
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Housewife
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
Stranger Lodger at Friends House
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Non-hookup
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was black, married, and around my age. He was hunky and muscular. I didn’t know him at all and was a complete stranger. I was doing some cleaning at my friend’s house who was disabled and away that day. I met him for the first time that day.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I knew my friend was taking in a lodger for a couple of weeks but was unaware he’d arrived a few days earlier. My friend hadn’t told me. I was supposed to have got the spare room cleaned, but it was locked and didn’t know where the key was. The room was down in the basement along with a small bathroom and toilet.
While I was using the loo myself, I got turned on by a dirty magazine I found stuffed behind a radiator, it was while I was putting the mag back in its hidden place, I knocked over some cleaning fluid that went all down my front.
I was standing washing my vagina off when he walked in wearing just boxer shorts, and he had an erection, he was quite big.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We looked at each other’s private parts, and he made lots of suggestions with his eyes and mouth and couldn’t resist his offer of oral. Before I knew it, I was on the edge of his bed, jeans down and getting vaginal oral. It was fantastic, and I had to push him away eventually.
Then I started giving him oral. He began asking lots of questions at the same time, if I’d had black before and thing like that, I answered the best I could and then couldn’t resist the temptation of having my first black treat as he called it when he offered. I had my jeans down straight away and got on all fours.
He did ask about a condom, but I was happy not to use anything, I don’t know why, just felt right He was excellent, satisfied me many times and kept going for ages. I wanted his cum too, why I don’t know, but I just did.
He was good, and we both knew it was a one-off, we talked about it, it shouldn’t have happened, but there were no regrets.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I didn’t have a lot of time afterward, I had kids to pick up and things to do and didn’t see much of him. I hoped we might have hooked up again, but it never happened.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy/convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? I’m not sure / I don’t know
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Getting oral by a stranger and he was great at it, the best I’ve ever had.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? His ejaculation, it was a big load, and I worried if people knew or could tell I was messy down there as I had to shoot off quick without a proper clean up, but strangely, it was a turn on to know it wasn’t my husband’s.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I surprised myself with my actions. I would usually walk away I’m not that sort of girl. Would I do it again, is a question I ask myself and think in fairness that I don’t know.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It was great at the time, unexpected but enjoyable.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? An excellent project.
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