What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 47
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Auckland
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? IT Manager
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2
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How long ago did this hookup happen? This morning
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a slim petite brunette with two children. She had beautiful, deep chocolate eyes and lustrous long natural brunette hair. She had small breasts and a perky little ass. She was in town to accompany her daughter to a performing arts class.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She messaged me on a swinger site I’d recently joined and within the hour we met for a drink. We talked and discovered that we shared relationships of similar duration with little or unsatisfying sex. We kissed and caressed at the table and arranged to meet at her hotel room the following morning.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I set up a fake meeting in my work calendar and snuck out to her hotel. Soon after walking in the door, we were on the bed and ripping each other’s clothes off. We kissed for a bit before I worked my way down her body and ate her pussy for a bit. She was fully shaved and had a beautiful little body. We 69ed for a bit then fucked missionary, wheelbarrow, reverse cowgirl and doggy. I was doing my usual of holding off until she got off but it was a really hot day and the room was not air-conditioned. We were slicked in sweat and once I’ve held off for a bit I need to go at it hammer and tongs to finish and it was just too hot to do so. Also, she confessed she’d banged another guy the previous night and was feeling sore so I didn’t think it would be a great idea to go crazy on her. She indicated she didn’t cum easily either. We caressed and cuddled for a bit talking about various things then I had a shower, dressed and left. She slipped herself straight into her clothes to go pick her kid up which was kind of hot – my body heat and perspiration still slicked all over her – maybe she liked the idea of that?
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We DMed a bit on our phones and both enjoyed each other and the experience. We’re keen to meet up again but this may be a while from now given her location.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No-one. Another one that’ll go to the grave with me I suspect.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The ease and speed with which we went from meeting to fucking. We were really well-matched personality-wise as well.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The heat sapped energy and was exhausting.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Maybe not changed but reinforced my ideas and understanding. It’s liberating to know there are women with similar dynamics in their relationships and with similar sex drives – especially in these times it’s nice to find this universality in men and women.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It was only a little negative because she was carrying some guilt for acting out of her marriage and it was sad to see someone with passion and desire in a position where she felt she wasn’t valued/desired intimately by her husband. Guess its a lesson to all men out there that if you take your partners for granted, no matter how successful your profession, lifestyle etc then odds are they will look to find that validation elsewhere.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Well, at this point in life I couldn’t see myself functioning without it. I think it has always been there, already had a place in society but the ways we acknowledge it and allow for it are changing. It’s a wonderful way to connect with people and restore confidence in yourself in a world that seems to be increasingly disconnected (despite all the technology).
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great – both as an outlet and a library of other people’s experiences. Would be good if comments were allowed and were moderated to some extent as it would be interesting to see the sorts of debates and questions that flowed out of people’s experiences. But, I guess a site like this would be a magnet for trolls and zealots etc and get out of hand fast.
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