by Tanya

Gender: Female
Age: 19
Race/ethnicity: Asian
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual

Stress Buster Under the Tree

How long ago did this hookup happen? A week ago

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s tall and nicely built, and kinda bearded. I knew him for like a year, and he’s just an older guy in my college. We met on facebook, and ended up meeting each other eventually. We became really close friends, so much that we knew a lot about each other. And yes, in a few months of knowing each other we decided to kiss.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? When we were texting each other, we suddenly started to feel horny, I said I was feeling weird, and he said he was too. We went on to sext and then decided to go out the next day. He said he’ll meet me in the evening, and then he drove me to wooded lonely lane, under a tree.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started by kissing each other really tightly while he enjoyed some boob pressing. I pulled down the zipper of his pants and stroked and blew his cock. He came in my mouth and returned the favor. All under the same tree.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? It was purely oral, so we didn’t really care to take a precaution.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Well, the previous week, he had a big fight with his girlfriend, and I was quite frustrated with work and pressure from home. We needed something good to happen, and this was the best we could think of.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? He was a little drunk (a round of beer) then, but was totally normal.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We enjoyed it a lot and were totally normal after that. We did go on to do the same thing with each other quite often. Now we’ve grown really close as friends, and can talk about anything and everything under the sun without hesitating.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I’ve told a close female friend and two close male friends. They were perfectly okay with it, because we were happy and have been having a lot of fun.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was a wanted experience for both of us.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I won’t ever regret it. He’s the closest I’ve been with any human so far, and considering it’s not a relationship, I believe that we’ll never lose each other.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was that we started growing closer, and have nothing to hide from each other. It was the first time I even went close to sex!
The worst part was that he still had a girlfriend, and he’d feel guilty after the whole process.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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