by U.S. Wanker
Current location: Utah
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 28
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Stripping Away Fear
How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 months ago
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Paid Sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My wife and I were in New York City for work. We hired a stripper to go back into a private room. She was an open and attractive young stripper of some kind of mixed ethnic heritage. She and my wife had struck up a conversation at the strip club. Her relaxed relationship with my wife made both of us feel very comfortable with her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My wife instigated going into the strip club. Our married sex life has allowed her a lot of freedom in pursuing sexual opportunities outside of the marriage. However, because of the nature of our relationship, she has not always felt as comfortable with me pursuing outside sexual interests. She recommended we go into the strip club and see where the experience might take us.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We first sat and talked at a table and discussed terms and what could happen in a private room. The sex worker made it clear that the private room was between the three of us and no one else. We could pay extra for the privacy of a curtain on the room.
The stripper/sex worker was fascinated by our relationship and the fact that my wife had a lover that I knew about. She also seemed to have bi-sexual tendencies and seemed to be attracted to my wife.
Once we got back into the room and I’d taken care of the payment, she took turns rubbing her naked body against both of us. She allowed me to put my fingers inside her. She humped my wife almost all the way to orgasm. At one point, my cock was fished out of my pants and the stripper spent some time sucking on my cock.
We had an incredibly arousing time and there was a definite sense of arousal that continued well after our time ran out.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? No orgasms.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? No precautions were taken. We got tested afterwards (clean).
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? The reasons were to explore the impact of my wife watching me sexually interact with another woman. The impact was not what traditional society would have anticipated. Casual sex was an enhancement to our committed sexuality.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I may have had one drink. Alcohol played no role.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, my wife and I returned to our hotel room for an evening of exquisite sex. I didn’t have any expectations of any future with the stripper of course, but as I write about this I hope she is financially well off, sexually satisfied and has at least some sense that the work she does is not only appreciated, but necessary and beautiful
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Since the hookup happened in the context of a committed relationship, it lacked the negative side effects that can come from violating previous sexual commitments.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was absolutely consensual for me and my spouse. As for the stripper, it was clearly consensual on her part. The oral sex was purely voluntary and wasn’t even negotiated in the private dance price or tip.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I do not regret this at all.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was how simple the paid transaction made the entire process. The act of paying didn’t negate the need for human interaction and mutual attraction, but it simplified the emotional aspect of the sex. It was clear from the outset that this would be a paid transaction between a willing buyer and a willing seller. The worst was the cost, simply because it limits the number and types of interactions you can have, not to mention the Puritanical laws that make paid sex such an anathema.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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