What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 57
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Quincy
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? contractor
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? maybe 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 40 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We were both 18 and just out of high school. He was shorter than me and dark. His height was maybe 5’8″. I was skinny, blonde and 6 foot tall. We had been friends since kindergarten.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We were the oldest on the block so everyone else was always called home early. On one of these nights after all the younger kids went in I was taking peeing against a tree when Brian came over and asked if I could keep a secret. I told him yes and he told me never to tell anyone again. I said yes. He asked if he could feel my penis. I thought for a minute and then said he could. Before I could unbutton my shorts he had his hand down my pants. He immediately said that I was hard. I pulled my shorts and underwear down and he proceeded to stroke my cock. I was shocked he was giving me a hand job. he continued to jerk me off until he stopped and asked if he could lick me. At that point I would have agreed to just about anything, so I said yes.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He took my cock in his hand and used the tip of his tongue on the tip of my cock. After a few minutes of this I wished he would go back to jerking me off. I asked him if he had ever done that before and he said no. I asked if he wanted to learn and he said yes. I got down on the grass and took of the rest of my clothes. I was naked now and all Brian had on was a thin pair of gym shorts with no underwear. His cock was pressing the shorts into a tent. I got on my knees and slid his gym shorts off. He was rock hard but I still used my hands to caress and stroke his cock. Then I used my tongue to lick his cock, starting from the tip and then I used longer slower licks from his balls all the way up while stroking him the whole time. When I felt his knees start to shake I took his whole cock into my mouth and used my tongue and lips to make him cum into my mouth. We spent the rest of the summer hooking up. One of us would just say, “Want to fool around?” and then we would.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I thought about the fact that it was gay sex but was really ok with it in the end.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? no one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I thought it was good to explore my sexuality
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing. I wish we had continued .
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? yes.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I think at the time we both felt some guilt. I wish we both could have enjoyed it for what it was.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I still think that i would enjoy sex more if I wasn’t thinking about how this was going to affect my partner.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? great idea
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