Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
Relationship status: In a LTR
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Gay
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Thousands
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
How long ago did this hookup happen? Summer 2012
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Grindr hookup
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was much older, 47. Australian, delicious accent. Big penis. Average looking but very nice body for his age, thin and hairy. A moustache that made him look sleazy like a 70s porn actor. I knew it was going to be good. I wanted to be a bottom that afternoon.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Searching for a casual on Grindr during summer holidays. He invited me to his hotel and so I went.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was a bit dirty. I just entered the room and he was already in his underwear. I said hi and we started kissing immediately. I just couldn’t take my hands off his cock. Gave him a deep blowjob to which he made compliments. We both sniffed lots of poppers. When it came the moment I felt I wanted to be penetrated in my ass, I just slided it inside of me without asking. I was sitting on top of him, he was laying on his back. We had a little accident because I wasn’t clean enough inside, so I had to stop and go wash. He patiently waited for me while I was doing gross stuff in the bathroom. Then he proceeded on fucking me on all possible positions and with a lot of control. He was authoritarian and very macho. He kept on asking me if he was a good top and he was actually so good I still think about him while masturbating. I had to confess he is probably one of the best tops I ever had. He asked me to cum inside with me laying flat on my belly. I was kinda gross and wanted to play with his sperm after, so I expelled it from inside of me. Because of that I know he came A LOT. It just wouldn’t stop leaking.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Nothing really. It was part of the fantasy.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Merely recreational.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Lots of poppers.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? No hopes. We only had lunch after sex and he would be leaving in a few more days. I had his email, but never wrote anything. I know he had a partner back in Australia.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To my psychoanalyst. He just nodded. I don’t remember why this hook up was relevant to my therapy in that moment but maybe because I just felt really good about myself. He was a very interesting man to seduce after all.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Everyone was OK with it.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No regrets.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Worst: had to stop it to give myself a better inside cleaning. It’s always very embarrassing when you’re dirty inside.
Best: Everything else. Nice penis and a nice person to have sex with. Very human and kind. I still think of this afternoon in my fantasies.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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