by Lola

Gender: Female
Age: 22
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Current location: Australia
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Bi-curious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Summer Love

How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 Months (Feb, 2014)

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Fuck-buddies

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was out at a popular club with several of my friends, one of my friends was pissed off because the other two were hooking up with guys and it seemed thats all they were about. So, I told my friend we’d go dance in the other room and told her: “Don’t worry I wont get with any guys tonight, if someone comes up to me and I like them, ill grab their number.” We danced for a bit and were approached by my future fuck buddy and his friend, we danced, flirted etc and exchanged numbers. He’s middle eastern, a solid 8, 6 ft. and 20 years old (19 at the time, I was 21 at the time). Tall dark and handsome basically.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was immediately infatuated, but after speaking with him for a little while I realised we had absolutely nothing in common and there was no potential for a relationship. Several weeks passed with more flirting, he eventually told me straight out he was only looking for fun, and “wasnt a one night stand kind of guy” which made very happy because I’d just got out of a relationship and was after the exact same thing. After several failed attempts to meet up I thought he was losing interest and decided to give it one last shot before giving up. To my relief he replied saying he wanted to meet up. We organised that i would pick him up and we would just find a spot to go since we both live with our parents so that was out of the question. We drove around for a while he ran his hands up and down my legs and teased me until we eventually decided to just park at a local train station (classy, i know).

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We jumped in the back seat and started kissing. I gave him head, he gave me head for a little while and then we eventually had sex. While we were having sex it was rough, we dirty talked, name calling, he scratched my back with his nails (to the point where I was bleeding), hair pulling, face slapping. He wanted me to lick his ass but I was reluctant. It remains to this day the best sex I’ve ever had. He made me feel as there were no boundries and we could both just let loose without any judgement. I think he came on my chest, I can’t remember.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I didn’t, he did.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom. In later months I’ve gone back on the pill and now we use condoms every now and then even though we’re not in a monogamous relationship.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? No reason, just needed sexual release.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? None.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Afterwards I think we just made small talk and I dropped him home and we high fived lol. i was happy about it, but because I like to be submissive and he likes to be dominant sometimes I struggle with dealing with that. I know that we will never be in a relationship but sometimes I wish we were more. he’s an asshole and recently  sometimes I think I have feelings for him but then other times I think it might just be me projecting my loneliness onto him.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My close friends, they were happy for me. And surprised about the intensity of it.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? 100% consensual on both parts.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Sometimes I regret parts of it because he has pictures, videos of me and I’ve done some other things in later encounters that I dont regret but am not proud of.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best: the freedom to do/say anything without any judgement or hesitation (in later encounters he has put his fingers in my ass, anal, threesomes (MMF), he said he wanted to pee on me but I have been reluctant because I know he doesnt respect me and I think thats something that should be shared between two people who love each other. Plus I dont want to drive home smelling like pee.)
Worst: he has only recently realised how fun it is to make the other person cum, before he only cared about himself but now I can tell he’s proud when he makes me cum, and its taken a while. Also; sometimes he is a little bit too rough and doesnt take his time to “warm up”
Overall this hookup has made me realise that sex can easily be confused with love and that I am very compatible with individuals who like to dominate.

 

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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