by Misty Sands
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 32
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Fredericton, New Brunswick, Canada
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Artist
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Sapiosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30-40
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
Summer’s End Sex by the Sea x 2
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One night stand + another one-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Partner #1 (we will call him “Spool dick”) is neurotic and intentionally cold but also comical. He is strange looking with large blue eyes and a big forehead, tall, a bit lumpy, and I’d yet to see a dick like his: nice size in general but fat in the middle, like a spool with its thread built up in the middle and tapering to both ends.
Partner #2 (let’s call him “Hairy”) is taller than Spool dick, greater frame, bigger hair, lots of curls and an unkempt face.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had been encouraging Spool dick to meet me at the party where this all went down. He arrived late and behaved distant and aloof. I didn’t care too much; I just wanted to fuck him. After drinking enough whiskey and beer, we had sex in his tent behind the motel where most of the partygoers including myself were staying. He proceeded to pass out, but I was still awake so I left the tent and went to find the lingering partiers on the beach. Hairy started coming on to me and I thought, “fuck it” and asked him if he wanted to have sex outside with me as I’d never done that before. We grabbed a blanket from his motel room, found a nice spot next to some trees in a large field and that was that.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Spool dick and I had quick sex without any frills except I do remember riding him in a backwards cowgirl position. Spool dick is not the greatest lover. He is selfish but his dick works. We didn’t talk. I left when he passed out.
Hairy was sensual and sweet, very flattering and vocal. We had great sex. I still think about it sometimes. The environmental experience helps me recall what happened. It was dewey and the grass was wet. we could hear the sea. We went down on each other briefly. I most enjoyed being on top of him and rocking myself back and forth on his substantial cock. It was great. We wrapped up the blanket and our clothes and went inside to his room to cuddle and fall asleep.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I woke up with Hairy before anyone else in his room (there was a friend of his on the couch), so I went back out to Spool dicks tent and climbed back in there with him. Don’t ask me why. I think I had feelings for him at that point for whatever reason and was looking for reciprocation but I never got it. Hairy came out to let Spool know that they were making breakfast inside and at that point realized I was in the tent with him. Awkward… when Hairy went back inside, I left the tent to go back to my room and me and my friends went to get breakfast, and I haven’t seen either H or SD since.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms, Fertility awareness (days counting, temperature), Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Hallucinogens (LSD, mushrooms, DMT…)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I tell friends as a funny story and they usually laugh 🙂
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I regret hooking up with Spool dick but not with Hairy. Spool just wasn’t worth my effort in the end and though I knew that, I wasn’t ready to admit it to myself.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The feeling of misty sea air on my naked body while in the throws of passionate fucking.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Spool dick being a dick and passing out so fast.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I was surprised at myself for behaving so “recklessly” and sleeping with two
separate people in one night. I am proud of my boldness. It’s not something you might expect from me. I am a demure and quiet person.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I send Hairy a message after our time together wishing him well. He wrote back an equally caring response. I tried to keep in touch with Spool for a while but that was getting me nowhere so I promptly deleted him from all of my networks.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I am open and interested in it and find it challenging to identify my feelings towards each individual situation. I believe the self-awareness and self-analysis that I involve in the process helps me learn about myself a great deal, and helps me gain confidence and strength as an independent feminist woman.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? this is great
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