What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 32
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Will was a guy I met while travelling through the USA. I was in LA for a few months and ended up hooking up with him several times, it became a bit more of a relationship, more like casually seeing each other. He’s the first African-American guy I’d hooked up with, I was really attracted to him. I’d been pretty tame in my sexual adventures thus far, American guys in general were a revelation – much more forward and assertive about asking a girl on a date.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We’d been hooking up on the sly for a month or so, and the friends that I was travelling with at the time weren’t aware that we had this ‘thing’ going on. One of my girlfriends and I ended up crashing at his place one night, he was staying with his brother in his room and we were in the spare room. That night we were all watching a movie in the loungeroom, the room was pretty dark. Will and I were sitting on the couch, we had a blanket over our laps, which is asking for trouble really! Slowly we were feeling each other up, he had his hand on my pussy stroking it through my knickers. I had my hand on his cock, which was rock hard, and I was stroking it throughout the movie. The other girl, my friend, was sitting on the floor in another part of the lounge. There weren’t any lights on in the room and given that the sound was up pretty high on the movie, we were probably getting pretty enthusiastic under cover of darkness.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After the movie ended, my friend and Will’s brother went to bed. We stayed up ‘talking’ on the couch, but as soon as everyone went to bed our hands were all over each other. I was nervous about us fooling around in the common area of the lounge, I was worried that either my friend or Will’s brother would walk out for a glass of water or something!
Will’s hands were under the blanket, sliding under my knickers, rubbing softly against my clit. I was already sopping wet after all the fooling around during the movie, so I was moaning quietly – it felt fantastic, particularly as he had pulled my tank top down and was stroking and licking one of my nipples at the same time. We were kissing deeply, he was whispering in my ear that he wanted to fuck me right there which was particularly hot, but I was still wary of being caught. I was giving him a handjob as he was stroking my pussy, we were still keeping up the pretense of being under the blanket too. I was getting more and more turned on, my pussy was throbbing, my nipples were hard and erect, I had his pulsating hard (and very thick) cock in my hand, and my brain was starting to override with all these pleasurable sensations. He knew just how to drive me crazy, and that combined with the dirty whispering in my ear tipped me over the edge. I pulled the blanket off us, threw it over the couch so that it was covering the seat, and swiftly straddled him, pulling my knickers aside as I did so – sinking my pussy onto his thick cock felt sooooooooo good, I was insanely wet by this point (lucky I’d had the presence of mind to cover up the nice cream-coloured couch!). I started riding him on the couch, and because he was seated facing me, he was able to suck my nipples as I bounced up and down. Now, I’d never come from penetrative sex before so I was a bit confused/surprised to feel swirling sensations around my clit, and with every thrust they pulsed through my pelvis, making me grind my clit against him. To my amazement I could feel an incredibly strong orgasm building, I was moaning and squealing by this point, Will was trying to cover my mouth with his hand to keep me quiet, but I’d lost all sense of where I was and I was just bucking towards my orgasm. It didn’t take long before I let out a muffled scream into his hand, riding the waves of my orgasm through and feeling him blow his load deep inside me at the same time. I collapsed onto him, I could feel him laughing quietly at how noisy I’d been!
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It took me a while to come down from the sexual high, then we realised it was morning and the sun was just rising! We ended up driving to the beach, we were both pretty sexed up for the next few days.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No-one, but my friend put two and two together!
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Coming hard for the first time during penetrative sex, and realising that I was in charge of my own orgasms.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope. I enjoyed casual sex a lot when I was young, it was an important part of realising my own power as a sexual being. This trip to the USA in particular was a very transformative time for me sexually, I had a lot of casual sex in a 6-month time span and it was all highly enjoyable!
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s very important for getting to know yourself and your own desires/wants/needs, and as a result I think it’s a shame that there’s so much stigma, particularly for women. I think it’s most important for women in fact. I look back on (almost) all my experiences and partners fondly, and I love what each experience taught me about pleasure, both giving and receiving. It’s fun to look back at youthful escapades and smile at the memories!
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