What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Netherlands
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Student still atm
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Surfer Girl

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago till few months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was casually sexually seeing a handsome colleague of mine I had a crush on and we went out together. I lost him in the club we were at and later found him making out with another girl. You should have seen his face! He was afraid I’d be angry. But I decided to make the best of the situation and started talking to her, making my advances clear to her, as she was gorgeous! Exactly the kind of surfer girl I liked, natural and playful. So I asked her if she wanted to come home with us and we had a great night. I ended up having a long ‘friends with benefits’ relationship with her and not seeing the guy anymore. I really started loving her at one point as a friend and a lover, but because she never really identified as a bisexual I think it never became serious.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? See previous comment

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The threesome was fun and loving but the guy didn’t really know what was happening to him and that wasn’t so sexy. The girl and I ended up having a great time I think it was her first time with a woman. We had sex with the guy and with each other.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt good about it, it was young and fun. As a bisexual, I like experiencing both sexes at the same time. I remember being impressed by surfer girl and wanting to know more about her. To this day we’re friends and still kiss each other sometimes.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) IUD (Intrauterine device)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Some friends, I mean they thought it was cool or funny

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That I got to know surfer girl and enjoy her company

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? …. maybe that the guy was so flabbergasted

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Maybe a little. It was in a time where I was very sexually active and that side of me will always be there but is more at ease now

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I like casual sex. I wish it was more accepted towards women.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great!

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