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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 27
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Oslo, Norway
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Graphic Designer
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Hard to describe, it’s more a type of faith than organized religion. I have faith in nature, the Divine Feminine, and Masculine.
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Pansexual but heteroromantic
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? No idea could be around 40-50 people
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Surprise Threesome!

How long ago did this hookup happen? A couple of months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Two black guys, one very athletic and the other one fairly athletic. I didn’t know them at all when it happened. We had only spoken briefly on Tinder and Snapchat. I thought they would be interesting for casual sex, but nothing more and we didn’t seem compatible for any romance.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I was talking to both of them on Tinder and then Snapchat. These were separate conversations, but it turned out they were roommates! I went over to see one of them, and the other one was there too. The only fair thing to do in such a situation was obviously a threesome! This was not part of the original plan, but I had tried threesomes before and enjoyed them, so I didn’t mind trying again.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral, anal and vaginal. The oral was only one-way (I gave them blowjobs and even a cheeky rim job). It felt very kinky, and they were fairly rough but respectful. I preferred one of the guys since the other one was a bit too disrespectful. We didn’t talk very much and just come casual chatting before and after.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day I felt great, no feelings of shame or anything. I think life is too short to worry about what other people think about your own sex life. I also feel a social responsibility to be open about my encounters, so that other people who are not as open might feel more comfortable talking about their own experiences. I met them a couple times more, but now I only see the guy I preferred and another friend of his. We don’t hang out outside of meeting for sex, and it’s working out pretty well so far!

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Both friends and some coworkers and I haven’t had any negative reactions so far. I can usually tell how someone will react, so I don’t tell certain people. Not because I am ashamed, but because I want this to be an overall positive memory.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Getting to explore threesomes more!

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing was particularly bad, but it would’ve been nice if they went down on me.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I heartily recommend group activities for those who are interested in such things. It’s not as scary as it might seem, just to it with people who are relaxed and make you feel relaxed.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think the more sex you have, the better sex you will have. I am a big fan of casual sex and I believe the only reason some people don’t engage in it is that they’re afraid of what others might think of them, especially in small towns. I would like to see this change, and I think my life so far has benefited from being a freethinker when it comes to sex. Who has ever been on their deathbed thinking, “oh I really wish I didn’t have that much sex!”

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A very cool project and I love to read other people’s stories!

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!