What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Nashville, TN, USA
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Let’s call him Chris – Chris was incredibly handsome, charming, and respectful. I was on Bumble (the dating app) and saw his gorgeous picture of him with dark hair, brown eyes, and a well-groomed 5 oclock shadow. His profile said he was visiting for a few days from Sweden as part of a longer US road trip. We had similar interests, particularly as he expressed his interest in kink in his description and so from there I was instantly eager to learn more.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I messaged him briefly about his interest in kink and we seemed to be compatible (him as a dom, me as a sub). He discussed his previous experience with rough play ranging from pinning and holding down, spanking, slapping, choking, verbal abuse. He also mentioned orgasm control, begging, and things related to physical or psychological control. We stayed in contact throughout the day and hoped to meet up later in the night after he went to a concert. While I was hoping to meet at a bar, I decided it would be quicker to meet in his hotel room. I met him in the lobby, we went to his room, and talked about the US and Sweden, our travels, our jobs/education, and had an overall normal getting-to-know-you conversation. He was very respectful and intelligent (which may have been aided by his beautiful British accent). Finally I told him I had brought some toys, so I went over to show him a mix of bondage toys I had brought as I sat on his lap as he stroked me affectionately.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After being intrigued by my toys, he started kissing me while I was on his lap and we eventually made our way over to the bed. Of the toys available he picked out my dildo/vibrator as well as the nipple clamps. He first put me in doggy position and asked me to count his slaps on my ass up to 10 before I could change positions. After calling me a good dirty little girl, he asked if I could handle the vibrator to which I replied yes sir. He rubbed some lube on my long dildo, turned it on to vibrate, and slowly pushed it deep into my already soaking wet pussy. He told me not to remove it, as he also placed the nipple clamps firmly on my breasts. With all this in place, I laid down on my stomach and I shoved his uncircumcised cock with a substantially large girth down my throat. He held my head down long enough for my face to turn red before I released and took another big breath before going down again. I begged for this to go on three more times, each time slightly longer than the next. With his permission I asked to remove the vibrator so I could start riding him. I mounted him immediately, moaning uncontrollably at the size of his dick that filled me up completely. He continued to slap me, choke me, and call me a dirty girl. I started going faster, and getting louder, even changing positions so my knees were in more of a squatting position so I could have his dick go deeper in me. At this point he looked most aroused, with wild eyes and a huge smile, but also with a plea for me to go slower so he could last longer. We locked eyes as I slowed down, wrapped my hands around his neck, and let him take control. The penetration became audible as he eventually picked up the speed, screaming “fuck!” and grunted as he came. After catching our breaths, he looked over to me and said “wow, you’re fun!” and with that I let out a smile and a giggle.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We laid in bed and cuddled as he talked about how he became introduced to the kink lifestyle, since he was 7 years older (and more experienced) than myself. I found it reassuring that it was a larger community than I thought. Also we distinguished between the different types of boundaries we wouldn’t cross (mainly adopting the headspace of a child or animal was considered too far). I enjoyed his description of the kink lifestyle as the ultimate freedom in the bedroom and expression of societal taboo. It makes me excited for my future kinky escapades. We cuddled all night, showered together the next morning, and had sex briefly once again – ending with him giving me an orgasm through my dildo. I was happily exhausted as we went to get bagels for breakfast and I headed off to my class. We kissed goodbye and reminisced on our night over text messages before he had to leave town the following day.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Submission / Relinquishing power, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I messaged a couple close friends about it who agreed that I had had sex with the most attractive Dutch-Swedish guy on this side of the Atlantic.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That we were able to actively explore and discuss aspects of kink that I wanted to experiment.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it only lasted one night.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I have dabbled in rough/kinky sex, but up until this point I thought it was just me going through an experimental phase. After realizing how much fun I could have, as well as the other avenues I have yet to explore in kink, I am enthusiastic about exploring this lifestyle as a major component of my sexuality.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I am excited to meet more European men in the future!
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think accepting casual sex is a vital component of a progressive society. I see it as a wonderful social tool that I can use to explore my own body, spirit, and “taboo” interests alongside others. I hope people see sex as not something that is a dirty act, but one that is genuinely pleasurable and fulfilling.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Fantastic idea and I hope to contribute more stories
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