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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 38
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States – Hartford Connecticut area
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Accountant
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Swinger Couple Meet Up For The Third Time

How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 days ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My wife (35, fit, white, attractive) and I first met this couple (both early 40s, fit, him-white her white/Vietnamese, attractive) at a sex club and had a conversation. Two weeks later, we met them for drinks and conversation. A week after that, we met them at a Marriott bar, then went to a room for sex. The next day, we unexpectedly ran into them at the sex club and hooked up again. This was the third time we met and had sex.

How did I feel about the others? I’m madly in love with my wife. The other couple (R&K)I consider to be new friends, we’ve known them about a month. I don’t really communicate with either them aside from a couple of texts before and after we meet up.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Where? – Local Marriott hotel.
What led to it? My wife does the majority of the ‘public relations’ with regard to meeting other couples. She arranged the time and day with the other couples’ husband 5 days before. I booked the hotel room.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? What happened? Oral, vaginal, 69 positions. At one point, (R went to the bathroom) I was having sex with K, she was on her side. My wife came over and lay on her side facing K. My wife massaged K’s clitoris while I had sex with K. I was also massaging my wife’s g-spot and both K and my wife had strong orgasms.

Later, I was having sex with my wife (doggie) while she performed oral on R, while K masturbated next to us.

How do I feel? Great. It was a very satisfying experience. My wife mentioned that R had some ‘performance’ issues and didn’t have a ‘complete’ experience with him. This is fairly common it a group setting. I cheat by using 40mg of viagra when I’m going to be in a group setting, which I don’t need/use when I’m with one partner.

K and my wife are an excellent lover. Before, we talked about kids and work and regular stuff (vanilla small talk).

The event ended by all of us getting dressed and leaving the hotel around 1 AM

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great. The next day, my wife and I returned to our vanilla life and had a normal weekend. For us, meeting up with other couples feels like a normal ‘date night’. Sort of like going out to see a movie or going dancing or a night at the casino. It’s just a regular fun time.

I hope to spend the rest of my life with my wife. I hope to remain friends with (

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device)

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, To feel more confident, Making new friends, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked with my wife about this hookup. I sent a text to K the next day. I did not talk to anyone about this who wasn’t present.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The best part of this hookup was reconnecting with just my wife at the end of the session. We end with my wife and me

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Hmm… I don’t think of much of a downside. I paid for drinks at the bar and the hotel room, so about $200. I’m sure the other couple will pay next time. So even that, $100 for a great night out seems pretty reasonable. I wish I had

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? We’ve been meeting up with people outside of our marriage in some respect for about 5 months. This experience, for the last 5 months, has been transformative. It is a huge confidence booster and has resulted in me revising what I think about marriage, sexuality in marriage, and jealousy. However, this experience itself felt very regular, very normal. Just meeting with some friends.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? My wife and I do not discuss this aspect of our lives with anyone. My wife aspires to be an elementary school principal. Information about our sex lives, which harm no one, could destroy her operations. I wish people didn’t care so much about what other people do

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great

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