What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 27
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Management
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Between 30 and 40
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
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How long ago did this hookup happen? Last week
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was tall, blonde, and fit, with a nice smile. I recognized him – we went to high school together, but we ran in different circles. I always thought that maybe he was the type of guy who’d be insanely attractive when he got older, and I was right. I’d never talked to him before, but he was nice, and both he and my husband are bartenders, so they clicked. We were at the bar for last call – a real bartenders’ bar, if you know what I mean – and already a couple of sheets to the wind, all of us. The boys were talking, and this gorgeous, petite brunette with nice tits and a perky ass walks up and starts talking to me. I was sort of drunk, but she was wasted. She starts telling me how pretty I am, how she loves my hair, my makeup, leather jacket, etc… I thought they seemed like fun, but I never assumed they’d be interested in us sexually.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She instigated it! I wasn’t expecting to swing that night. We never plan these things, we usually just let them happen. It was well past last call, and she goes, “I think we should make out!” Which, okay, making out with a chick is definitely not even in my top 5 weird things I’ve done in this bar, so sure. We’re all talking and she keeps coming on to me, and both of the guys are super into it, so it’s pretty clear at this point it’s about to go down. We asked them if they wanted to continue partying at our house, just down the street, and they agreed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The boys were in the other room talking about alcohol or something, and she and I were on the couch when she started kissing me again. It was a little strange for me, because I’m usually the more aggressive one during hookups, regardless of the gender of my partner. She took the lead, undressed me, and worshipped my tits. We both noticed that the guys were in the next room quickly hashing out the negotiations between them. Eventually, we were both undressed and she headed down south. Sweet mother merciful Jesus-I-don’t-even-believe in, she gave me the BEST oral of my life. Her tongue was so unbearably and deliciously gentle. We couldn’t keep our hands off each other. I don’t know how many times we swapped tops, but when I was eating her out, my husband came up behind me and ate me out. Then blondie came around and started making out with her. She suggested that they were both overdressed, so all four of us got naked on the couch in a very inelegant, yet extremely satisfying, configuration. We’re both with our own partners, feeding off their sexual energy for a bit. She and I had a bit of a sick-sucking contest, but both guys are having trouble getting fully hard due to mixed alcohol/drug toxicity. He asked her if she wanted to fuck my husband, and she said yes, so we swapped. He was much easier to blow than my husband, because my husband is quite large, and he was very adequately average sized. He had an amazing body, though, and I licked all the way up from his abs to his chest. I was a little disappointed that neither guy was hard enough to achieve penetration, but it was still fun. At one point, she attacked me on the floor and pulled my pussy to her mouth, making me cum relentlessly. I gushed a little in her mouth, and the way she moaned when she tasted it was positively decadent.
We had another friend coming over- one that we’ve previously hooked up with- so we all decided to stay naked. It was surreal and amazing. We sat there, completely nude, talking about politics and feminism and books and teachers we had in school. We stayed like that until 5 in the morning, talking and occasionally kissing. It was pretty magical, and I don’t think we could’ve have found a better couple to have our first foursome experience with.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I gave her my number, and I waited two days to text her, which seemed appropriate. When you have drunken experiences like these, sometimes regret and shame deep in the next day. However, she was terribly cool about it, and wants to hang out again. She added me on Snapchat, and he friended me on fb. We’ll just wait and see where things go, though I don’t think anyone would say no to a second hook-up.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) IUD (Intrauterine device), I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Intoxication, Making new friends, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Cocaine
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, Cocaine
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told one of my best guy friends, but he was more interested in trying to see if he remembered the guy from high school. We told two of our other best friends, but since we’ve slept with one of them and they’re both aware of our forays into swinging, they were neither surprised nor scandalized.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The chemistry we had with the other couple, and the mind-bending orgasm she gave me.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Neither of the guys could perform due to intoxication.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I have a pretty healthy relationship with sex already. I realized as a late-teen that I enjoy sex in most of its various forms, and by my mid-twenties, I’d shed any lingering hang-ups or guilt I had about my sexuality or promiscuity. My husband and I swing, and have been doing so casually for roughly a year. If anything, this experience confirmed that we made the right choice in choosing to include others in our sex life.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? This was the 7th time we’ve swinged, but our first foursome/group sex experience, and our first partner swap.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? My relationship with casual sex evolves as I age, but I’ve always very enthusiastically engaged in it. When I was young and single, there was a lot of shame involved, which is ridiculous. That stupid movie “What’s Your Number?” Came out when I was about 20. It was ridiculously sexist and misinformed, and caused me a lot of anxiety about my promiscuity at the time. Now that I’m married and older, I really couldn’t care less how high my number gets. If my husband and I are being safe and having sex with other consenting adults, why is it anyone else’s concern?
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This is pretty neat. I feel like it’s neccessary for people to share their stories, so we as a society can examine the effects casual sex has on our lives, and destigmatize sex in general.
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