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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? University of Alabama, USA
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Tailgate Hookup

How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Female, age 18-19, brunette, white sorority girl. Did not know them at all, met them 10 minutes before the sex occurred. Met them at the campus tailgate before a football game. She had traveled from the opposing school.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met at the tailgate. I saw her looking at me and could tell she liked me and walked right up to her and asked her name and did all the BS introductory stuff. Then I leaned close and asked her if she wanted to go somewhere private. I guess I could just sense it in the air. I took her to a classroom building I knew of about 2 minutes walk away to have sex. The building was deserted and quiet. We had sex in a classroom with a piano and some chairs in it. I assume she had drank throughout the day since just about everyone was drinking. I would estimate I had at least 8 beers preceding this occasion along with a few gulps of whisky and rum throughout the day, which definitely was a factor in the spontaneity of the hookup.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She gave me oral and then we had sex in various positions. I did her doggystyle bent over the piano and then came on her butt. It was pretty good, I wasn’t as hard as I could have been because I had consumed a lot of alcohol that day and it had been very hot outside but she was sexy and enthusiastic and I gave it to her as good as I can. She seemed impressed by the size of my penis.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We got each others’ numbers but didn’t talk at all and parted ways back to the tailgate after the hookup shortly before the game. Her team won the game.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Withdrawal, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Power / Dominance, Everyone else was/is doing it, Peer pressure, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a few buddies about it afterward. They thought it was cool I did her in a classroom during the tailgate and she was a total stranger.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? I didn’t use a condom and could have gotten a disease if she was that easy, but didn’t think about it at the time. I don’t think I got anything from her but it was still poor judgment. I should have had a condom on me.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Spontaneity, her willingness and interest in me as a total stranger from the rival school. Made me feel like a badass. She said something like, “I wanted you as soon as I saw you,” and, “,You were the tallest guy I saw all day,” or something.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Unprotected and she was only a 7/10 or so (wish she was hotter)

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I was a pledge in a fraternity at the time and she was a new sorority girl at her school. There may have been a dynamic of wanting to get someone from another school or getting someone while out of town. Pledges at my school are required to wear a navy blazer with red tie and khakis so I guess I looked fairly dashing, possibly that was a factor. I had also lost my original game day date earlier in the day, otherwise the hookup wouldn’t have happened since I was sort of frantically looking for a new girl.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it has been fine for me. I feel like I’m under pressure to get as much of it as possible in the culture of the school, I feel like the more I have the cooler, more manly I am. I think the culture of it is unhealthy but I can’t stop myself from participating because I’m too easily peer-pressured and I like sex. I wish people dated more seriously but then again I don’t have the courage to do it myself.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting, probably just ego boosting for guys and moral cleansing for girls

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