by Kit Kat
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 16
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? U.S.
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? I’m not sure what I am with this person but it seems to be going somewhere.
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Take Me Against the Fence
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 week
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This story involves three people that I know really well from doing theatre at my school. One of them is my best friend who is a gay white male (17 yrs old, lets call him S). We had not hooked up before but we are very open with each other about masturbation and things like that. We met in middle school and have only gotten to be better friends throughout high school. One of the other’s is also my really close friend. She is a straight white girl (18 yrs old, let’s call her P) and we had never hooked up before. I was simply ok friends with her before the hookup and we had never talked about anything really personal (sex, masturbation, etc.) The final and most important partner is a black/native american male (17 yrs old, let’s call him R) who I met in school last year. He is so attractive. We dated a little less than a year ago when we were both sophomores. The farthest we had ever gone was making out when we were dating. This school year R started a long term relationship with another girl in our theatre department and just recently she broke up with him. I still had some feelings for him but I thought that he liked P now so I pushed those feelings away.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? So I invited just R over because I thought we would be able to catch up. We really hadn’t talked since before he started dating the girl that just broke up with him. S called me while R was over and asked if I wanted to hang out with him and P. I just invited them over because I thought it would be fun. We ate dinner in my backyard and then went over to sit by the pool. Somehow we start to talk about masturbation (it always happens when S is around). We talk about it for a pretty long time getting into weird fetishes that we have and stuff. I’m starting to get pretty wet and so I’m crossing my legs. S tells us all that he is pretty horny and R agrees. P is a little more innocent than the rest of us and won’t really say much but she admits to masturbating. We really get into the porn that we like to watch. After about an hour and a half of talking about this S says (kind of half-jokingly) that we should have an orgy. At first we are all kind of like “haha no”. But S is like “would you guys ever do that?” And R is like “an opportunity like this is probably never going to come up again.” We all quickly begin to realize that we all want to and that we really should. We move to the corner of my backyard where it is pretty dark so my parents can’t see.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we all get to the corner of my backyard R starts kissing S. R knows that S really needs this so he does it for him. R tells me later that it did nothing for him but he was trying to be nice. Me and P are just watching them. I am getting pretty turned on and R comes over to me. We start making out and before I know it we are on the ground. He laid me down with the perfect amount of force since he is very strong. He starts biting my ear and kissing my neck (which are two things that I mentioned I loved when we were all talking by the pool). I can feel his erection rubbing around my core. He pulls down my bathing suit top and starts licking and biting my nipple. I don’t have large breasts by any stretch but he loves them and I am so turned on from him biting them with his full lips. We kept up an open dialogue while this all happened so we were really getting what we wanted. I tell him that I want to be on top so we flip over. I kiss all the way down from his lips, down his chest, to his erection. I bite it from outside of his shorts and play with his balls. He is really writhing against my mouth and then we go back to making out. S asks if we can switch because they aren’t really doing much for each other (it is slowly being revealed that we all just want to make out with R). I switch to be with S. ‘m basically just giving S pointers since I can’t do anything to help him either. S has never done anything with anyone before so he doesn’t know what he is doing. I don’t really either but I try to help him. We switch again and I’m with P. I move her so that she is sitting against the fence. I start biting her ear and neck and working my way down, asking her if it’s alright. She get’s uncomfortable when I’m outside her pants and so I stop. We switch again so I’m back with R. I ask him to “take me against the fence”. We are leaning against it and making out very passionately. He lifts me up so my legs are wrapped around his hips. His erection is again pressing against my opening but we are all still wearing clothes. He is so strong and it is really turning me on. We are clutching each other so close and his smell is intoxicating. He puts me back on the ground and I flip it so he is against the fence. I kiss all the way down to his dick again. He picks me up and puts me on the ground again and starts telling me things. S and P are nowhere in sight. R says “why didn’t we do this when we were dating?” I don’t have an answer for him except to moan into his ear. I tell him all the places that I want to fuck him like in the woods or in our drama classroom at school. He also says that he wouldn’t mind losing his virginity to me. At some point he starts to suck on my finger and take the whole thing into his mouth. For some reason this is the hottest thing in the world. S and P tell us that they all have to go since it is really late. R says “five more minutes” which really gets me going. We eventually stop even though we both really didn’t want to. He lifts me up and puts me on my feet because my knees are so weak. We walk back into the light so I can say goodbye to all of them. R was a really amazing lover. My knees were all scraped and dirty and my hair was full of leaves. R tells me to call him later.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt really weird about the whole thing the next day. I talked to S first on the phone and we were both happy that it happened. I also talked to R and we both kind of decided to do something like that again but with just us. Me and R did something else that very next day but that is something for a whole other entry. I feel like R and I will continue doing things whether it be within a relationship or not.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, To feel more desirable
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my very best friend and he kind of seemed disgusted by it so I didn’t tell him very much. That made me feel kind of badly about it but I think it’s just because he hasn’t done anything sexual with anyone.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I feel like I may have more feelings for R than he does for me. I also fear that S might tell someone which is not something that I want.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It opened up a whole new door for me and R to explore our sexuality together and maybe start dating again.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I can’t be certain about R’s feelings towards me and it puts me in a place to have to be vulnerable and possibly get hurt.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I feel like casual sex may not be for me. As much as I’d like to be able to do a friends with benefits thing or something like that I just have too many feelings. This very well may be because I had once dated this person. I may have the capacity for casual sex with other people but I can’t be sure. I felt much more desired and confident in myself after this encounter. It was empowering to go after what I wanted and have my desires be reciprocated. I felt slightly used though. Even though we were both getting what we wanted it was absent of the kind of emotion that comes with a relationship. I felt kind of like I wanted it to be more than it was. Maybe he cares about me and maybe not but I definitely care for him. It might have been my mistake to use this opportunity with him as a culmination of all the emotions I’ve felt for him while he was with someone else.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? There is something that society has made me internalize where it seems wrong and I don’t know how to shake that. I feel a little bit of shame but I’m not sure why. I hope that it can become easier to talk about and not make me feel used.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think that it is amazing to see other people’s stories. It removes the stigma surrounding casual sex and the idea that it only exists for the young. I feel much less alone because of it.
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