What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Brisbane, Australia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Town Planner
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Can’t quite remember what they looked like but vaguely: medium height, dark blonde, muscly build. I was in a laneway outside an apartment block carpark, waiting for another guy I’d met 2 hours earlier to come back with condoms. I was so fucking horny so I literally asked this random guy if he wanted to fuck as he was walking past. Very out of character for me, I am 75% sure the earlier guy had spiked a drink he bought me.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? After he quickly agreed I grabbed him and kissed him violently. Then we immediately jumped the fence into the apartment block. This was super spontaneous. Once we got over the fence we drunkenly made out more in the shadows then proceeded into the light, trying to choose a good spot in the carpark. We decided on a shade structure that had a desk under it. This was still super exposed, we were too keen.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? While making out he lifted up my party dress and started rubbing me with his whole hand. It felt so good after waiting so long for something. I was touching him too and he grabbed my tits really roughly with his other hand. I laid back onto the desk and he whipped it out. He pulled my knickers aside and forced himself in. I was a bit dry, but not for long. We were so so exposed anyone on the street could have seen us, the guy that went to get condoms probably did when he was looking for me and anyone could have looked out of their apartment window to see what all the noise was. He grabbed both my tits and the zipper broke on my dress. He was pounding me so hard and turned me over to take me from behind. I let him go like this for a couple of minutes then spun back around and threw him onto a nearby office chair and went hard. I don’t remember finishing. I woke up lying on the desk and he was fast asleep in the chair. I was still pretty drunk when I woke up but I was aware how fucking slutty I’d just been. To preserve some pride I took all the cash out of his wallet ($60 bucks, whew!), jumped back over the fence, and got in a taxi home.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day I felt super bittersweet about the ordeal. I was totally ashamed of how crazy slutty I’d been but also thought it was pretty badass and great. I put my man brain on and decided that yeah, I tamed some snake, fucking go me. To this day I could walk past this guy in the street and not recognise him, and I find that hilarious. It was an adventure.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Intoxication, Boredom, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Blacked out / Passed out
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, GHB, “roofies”
How intoxicated was your partner? Completely wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I was living in college at the time so I confessed to my close friends who were horrified but also thought it was pretty fun/amazing.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat
Why do you regret this hookup? I got chlamydia and the sex wasn’t very good. And of course it was super tacky!
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The adventure, the spontaneity, to say I have done something this wild in my youth. Doing what I wanted in the moment, living my life!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The chlamydia and the actual sex.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It showed me how easy it is to be disgusting and tacky but also how fun and adventurous it could be if done with someone you really liked. Also it showed me how easily I could probably ask someone to have sex with me in more respectable scenarios if I wanted.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I spent the money on alcohol, with the stranger in my mind.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I was able to tell my story a couple of times. When I first told it, with shame and embarrassment in my voice the girls had mixed reactions, mostly just exclaimed how crazy. Some judged me harshly, or I suspected they did. But when I told it in a way that I was proud, to a degree, like I suspect males usually do, my friends pretty much congratulated me.
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