by Melli

Gender: Female
Age: 21
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Miami
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Account Manager and Market Coordinator
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Kriya Yoga
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Taking the Friends w/Benefits Thing Too Literally

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 week ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends-with-Benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? A very attractive 22-year old. He’s very fit and looks kind of like Macklemore. I’ve been solely friends for about a year, until last month when we had our first sexual encounter. He couldn’t get hard because he was drinking, which I’ve experienced on numerous occasions. I always thought prior to the hook-up that he was super attractive, but he always had a girlfriend.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hook-up began at a lounge in Miami. I wanted to check out the scene that night and saw him there. We got to talking pretty intimately about some different things. We shared plenty of common interests. I got invited back to his friends house to chill and drink some more. A fight broke out amongst the friends and I was left with him alone on the balcony. After about 3 minutes of alone time, we started making out and I suggested we leave before his friends come back.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The first hook-up was a slight failure. The large amount of alcohol made it hard for him to stay hard. The next morning we reignited the intimacy and went straight to sex. It was actually pretty great. We spent the next 2 hours talking about different things in our life like career goals and people we knew. I didn’t have an orgasm that time around, but he definitely came. I’d say he was a pretty great lover. 
The second time around was a little different. I saw him at a different lounge. His two ex-girlfriends were there. He invited me back to his house and his two ex’s started to fight. Thankfully, they didn’t even realize I was in the picture. That night I met him at his house, and I gave him head. We than proceeded to have sex and it was actually great (yet again, I’m impressed). That morning, one of his ex’s called and started crying about the fight that took place the night before and how “he wasn’t there for her.” She was put on speakerphone and we listened to her complain as we laid naked together. It was the strangest fucking thing I’ve ever experienced in my life, but I’m assuming this is what your 20’s are all about? Afterwards I took a shower and made him pay for my valet.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We took precautions the first time around, but didn’t this time. He’s not a gross guy so I didn’t assume anything bad from him. I should definitely bring it up next time around.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? My reasoning was my crumbling relationship with another hook-up. This was my way of detaching myself.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol was definitely involved. Drugs? If weed is considered one, than I suppose that was involved as well.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hook-up, I look at him as a friend with great sex. We still talk about our weird lives and he knows about my situation with the other guy as I know about his current situation with his ex’s. He tells me he wants me to work for his company, but I don’t think I’m going to work for the competition.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I spoke to my friends. They enjoyed hearing my story. He’s a cute guy, so why not?

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was most definitely consensual, on both sides.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I don’t regret it at all. It’s helped me to get over the other asshole I was dealing with.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best is how down to earth and cool he is. I know it will never be anything serious, but it’s cool to have someone to lash out and talk to. His openness about everything made the casual sex experience much more enjoyable than the guys who’ve been secretive or gone behind my back. I think that because I know it’s only for fun, I’ll never give myself false hopes like I did with the other guys.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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