What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Sydney
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? IT Solutions Consultant
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0. This is my first.
How long ago did this hookup happen? Two months ago from now
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? R was slim, short (but still about 3 inches taller than myself), incredibly smooth dark skin, full head of black hair with a few silver strands, and sporting a well groomed beard. He is originally from Tamil Nadu, very new to Australia. We have worked together for the last 8 or so months, R being my senior and mentor was teaching me more than anyone every had, he is incredibley kind and patient, and the most intelligent person I have met.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Being co-workers and network engineers (R is my manager) we spent many late nights together making changes to servers in an empty office, quite often at his house as an alternative when we didn’t quite feel like being stuck in an office. This gave us the opportunity to really get to know each other. I came to learn that he was a 38-year old virgin. We obviously liked each other and he made me feel so comfortable and safe, I worked up the courage to ask him if he would like me to take his virginity.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? R was clueless and nervous, he asked permission before he made any move. But this was somewhat exciting. I felt like I was apart of one of the most important events of his life. After about an hour of foreplay and awkward intercourse he started to relax. His true desires started to take over and he stopped asking permission and started to order me around instead. Due to him finally relaxing and the excitement of it all, he eventually exploded inside of me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Although I didn’t orgasm, he was so amazed and proud of what happened it made the whole process really fun and we had a lot to talk about afterwards. We have a stronger friendship and he has remained professional and polite in the work environment. we have had sex three more times after, each time better than the last. I hope to continue our sexual escapades, what makes it even more exciting is that no one knows I’m sleeping with the manager.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Absolutely no one besides R. We hold a lot more respect for each other now.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The fun and excitement of it all and the fact that R was so respectful and continues to respect me. I think it is the first time I felt like I hooked up with a mature adult, it makes it so much easier to have fun.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Perhaps the awkwardness, but being R’s first time, we totally expected it and it’s something that we can now laugh about.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Having had bad experiences with previous hookups, this one gave me hope that it is possible to have casual sex with someone and remain friends, get on with your life, and have no regrets.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Although I hope we continue to hookup occasionally, I won’t be disappointed if he doesn’t want to in the future. So far it has been an amazing experience that I will truely cherish for a long time.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I am not interested in long term relationships, I enjoy being single and independent, however, I still want to connect with people I admire and have fun. Casual sex is exactly how to achieve this. I wish that more people saw casual sex as something fun and safe, rather than something to be ashamed of.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Casual Sex Project is a great way to see the diversity within our cultures and general society.
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