What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? IT
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Tapping My Inner Nature
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 week ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? K is about 5’7″ and weighs around 120-130 lbs. She’s naturally either a light brown or dark blonde, but dyes her hair to a fairly yellow blonde. Her hair is naturally quite curly, but she usually straightens it or does something with it, but usually wears it big and straightened (very 80s). She has a slender frame, but stunning curves that she likes to keep concealed. We met on tinder. When we met I was still in a committed relationship, but I knew it was ending soon in part due to some sexual incompatibility (she did not like my girth, so sex only 1/wk and usually boring). Since I really craved someone that could handle me, I dropped a subtle hint at the bottom of my profile (literally just 3 emoji: 🍆💦😘), but you had to scroll down to see it, so it wasn’t clear as to why but I did get more matches than anything else I tried. Anyways, I messaged her first and ask her to make me coffee and give me a backrub (both were mentioned in her profile). She is down and seems serious about it, but then asks what I’m bringing to the table. I mention bringing some weed, and she mentions getting a pizza (pretty sure this was at the top of my profile). Anyways, at one point she hints at my size, and I just downplay it like “it’s always been the same size relative to my hand, so it doesn’t seem that big to me.”
After a week of banter we end up meeting up for coffee. I was still romantically involved, but beginning my exit strategy. The night we pick to meet ends up starting super late, we meet at sbux right before they close, get drinks, talk for a bit, smoke weed, go for a walk, kiss (after a lot of teasing), smoke more, kiss a few more times, and then said “Goodnight” to one another. We kiss one more time and it’s deep and wet and hot and I grab her nice round ass firmly in my hand and she pushed back on me and got in her car.
So, we don’t talk for a week, then I add her on snapchat. She goes on vacation and snaps a picture of her in a bikini and I realize that this girl is an absolute babe. She has at least C cups, a thin waist, and beautiful long legs and nice skin (all golden–probably a little thanks to spray tan). I start chatting her up. My relationship ended after another week, so I start making passes at K, and then one night I tell her I’m going to take her out for coffee and she instead says that she’s going to be in town for drinks….
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? K doesn’t message me until around 11pm and I’ve been pretty high for hours trying to calm my nerves… I was really horny not having had sex since 2 weeks before relationship had ended. I try to smoke a little more on the way there to calm my nerves and end up cutting my thumb when I snapped the stem of my vaporizer. It bleeds quite a bit, I think about turning around but continue on.
I end up meeting her and her friend in line to the last stop on their bar crawl. K is looking really good, only wearing what looked like a romper that was very lacy and loosely draped over her curves.
I never found a bandaid so my thumb continued to bleed and I think I freaked her friend out a little bit (too bad because she may have been down for 3), but K doesn’t mind one bit and keeps putting her hands all over me (she did not cop a feel on our first meeting). After a bit of line standing and drinks, we end up on the dance floor where K has promised to twerk on me. Being pretty stoned and not very drunk I awkwardly try to dance, but K just pokes fun at me. She teases me away whenever I try to touch her. Finally, after reminding ourselves of how mentally attracted we were to each other, she turns around and backs in to me. Her ass is amazing–very toned but still with a decent amount of thick on it to make it jiggle. My penis wasn’t hard, but it was bulging, so she gets right up on it and starts grinding vigorously until it’s half erect and she slows down and guides my hand to her pelvic region and I sneak up to grab her breasts which were enormous.
The music stops and her friend who had been grinding on a “frat boy” comes to tell K that frat boy had a dick that just kept growing. K leans in to her and I can’t here what they’re saying, but by the end of it K’s friend is wide-eyed and staring at my crotch like it was about to do something. K’s friend dances close to me and I approach her for a bit and even touch her hip. She whips around and quickly wiggles against me and turns around smiling apprehensively. Her friend has a bit of a snaggle-tooth and talks with a drawl, but she had C/D cups as well and was very forward. I’m pretty sure if I could redo this night I would avoid cutting my hand and tried to arrange the 3-way–K told me later that she thought my dick was too big, but I still think it was the first encounter and my attempt to give her a literal bloody handshake.
K and I slutted it up on the dance floor, getting very physical and still taking some time to have fun. After stepping outside so she could have a cigarette (just a casual smoker–as am I), she tells me that she has more weed and a blunt wrap at her place that she didn’t mind staying up all night. We make plans to leave and she takes her crap from her friends car and puts it in mine.
Her apartment is a disaster, but she had dank weed and rolled us a blunt. It’s a cold night, but we drove around smoking it and drove back. Both of us are sufficiently stoned now and she’s wearing yoga pants and a sweatshirt. As I’m walking behind her the post-weed libido kicks in and I grab nearly her entire right ass check in my hand–she looks back pleasantly surprised–I pull her back and growl.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we get to her room she dims the lights and I approach her and start to make out intensely. I’m all over her ass and her pussy (she told me earlier she likes a finger in her ass when she cums) trying to jump start her lower half to get on my level. I get her top off and see her giant tits for the first time and go to town on them, they are bit and soft and she nearly cums as I finger her and suck on them. Then we realize that we don’t have a condom (in either of our cars). I volunteer to go because I have large condoms. I run to the car and back in my t-shirt (it was around 40f) and get back. We make out to try and get me back in the mood. After playing with her for a minute I was nearly ready and took off my pants. She grinned like a pornstar in heat, and I pulled her off the bed and pushed her to the ground and shoved my cock in her mouth. This girl was amazing and was just fucking dedicated. She kept it wet and went hard. She could only fit about half in her mouth until it was throat fucking. I was in heaven since I hadn’t had my dick sucked like that in 3 years (ex was terrible at head).
I slip on the first condom and start to play to get her warmed up and make sure she’s wet enough. She could tell I liked hearing about my size so she kept telling me to take it slow and talking about how filled she was. After a few minutes of gentle grinding, I go in deeper for some quick hard strokes and I feel brief jut of wetness as she nearly came. She requests doggy, so I flip her over, work my way in, and start pounding. She approaches orgasm a few times but I was too tired to keep the rhythm (4am=sleepy). I needed a break, so we stopped, I had to change out condoms.
She started sucking me again and the laid on the bed face up and tilted her head back until it was right in front of my cock. She let me fuck her throat a little more to get me good and hard while I used a packet of lube to get her pussy ready. I slip on the condom and go in. She puts her legs up near her head and lets me pound her deep for a minute then requests to get on top. She was very hot on top thanks to the breasts, and it was easy to get her off like that because I could use my whole hand on her clit. I let her do her thing and she cums so hard she nearly pops right off my penis from clenching. I go back in and start railing her and she cums one more time. We switch to straight doggy and go a bit more but I tell her I think I missed the opportunity to cum. To be fair she agreed to suck my dick.
Highlight of the blowjob (which was fantastic, but didn’t make me cum) was her 12-minute gagfest as she reached as far down as 3/4 my length before she simply couldn’t reach any further. I get pretty hard again, and haven’t cum yet, so we go at it again. At this point I’m just trying to pound the cum out but it just didn’t happen. It gets to be 5:45 and she has to work at 6:30 so we call it and just laid there for 10 minutes cuddled up naked.
Even though I didn’t cum, I still felt like a sex god.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had to leave so she could go to work. I opted out of getting coffee at her work (she was a barista) and instead drove home to crash. When I woke up I masturbated twice just thinking about the night before. I think I’ll meet up with her soon… Hopefully next time we’ll be a little more sober, a little less tired, and we’ll get the full experience.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, To feel better about myself, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, Power / Dominance
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? So far no one. I’ll probably tell my old roommate, maybe others if we keep hooking up.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? When she screamed as she came while riding my dick
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Her apartment was really messy, but I’m totally looking past this
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I feel a little more dominating and definitely confirmed my preference for girls that are into my size
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Glad I took the time to document it
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s a good thing. Sexuality is important, and casual sex makes it easier to figure out what you want in your sex life.
I’d like for people to see it more of a stepping stone than something to build a life around.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a great idea!
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