What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? San Francisco, CA
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Sales Associate
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Heteroflexible; curious about experimenting, but mostly attracted to the opposite sex.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? Last week
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s 33, white, and 6 foot. Appearance wise he has a shaved head, is moderately tattooed, wore rectangular black glasses, has a septum piercing, and full lips. I met him at a dive bar in the city. I thought he was cute but much more forward than anyone I had ever hooked up with.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Everything was initiated through tinder – we had been texting for about a week or so before we met up. We planned to go to an Airbnb later that night. I met him at the bar, and we only stayed at the bar for 15 minutes, before deciding to leave. After that, I got us back to my place so I could pack some things for the night since I had to go to work the following morning.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? While I was packing he pulled me towards his body as he was sitting down. He lifted up my shirt and grabbed my tits. He squeezed them, pinched them hard and slow, and then proceeded to bite my nipples. We made out a little. I giggled and told him he was distracting me. I finished packing, laid belly-down on my bed, and he grabbed my ass and played with it over my jeans.
After that, we drove to the Airbnb. Shortly after we got there, he took my shirt off, told me to get on my knees and suck his cock. He started taking pictures of me sucking his dick. Everything after that is kind of disorganized in my memory. There was a lot of cock worship on my part, and a lot of slapping, biting, choking, pinching, spanking, and squeezing on his part. I like rough, submissive play and a certain amount of physical pain, but he actually sort of crossed my limit. There were moments when I couldn’t handle his grip. I called him daddy a lot, and he told me what to do. There was some kissing. We 69’d at one point. It was pretty good sex. In some ways more intense and passionate than a lot of sex I’ve had, and in other ways it wasn’t. He was really obsessed with my ass and tits, which felt amazing. Overall I’d say he was definitely a good lover. It ended with him cumming in my ass.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Apparently watching Netflix helps him fall asleep. He started watching some show, I kind of turned the other way. Eventually, we turned the lights off and went to bed. We didn’t cuddle much. I was upset. I wanted to get closer to him, but instead, I laid awake for most of the night feeling embarrassed that he didn’t want the same. Around 3 AM we had sex again, which felt good. He had nice things to say about my body and my performance which made me feel better, but ultimately I left the situation feeling disappointed. The next morning we drove back to the city. Later that night I found that my tits were totally bruised — black/green/purple — and I sent him some pictures. That was the last time that we spoke.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told a co-worker about it. He was concerned about how bruised I was and wasn’t so sure about the whole thing overall.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How unafraid he was about worshipping my ass and tits, and his enthusiasm in complimenting my body and sexual performance.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Feeling rejected afterward – not cuddling or getting intimate in a more wholesome way as we went to bed. Not having any conversation or being able to connect beyond the sex.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Somewhat, yes. Or at least added more to my pre-existing ideas.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is important to me, but it also can create a lot of stress when complicated relationships begin after a hookup. I think it’s important for me as a young woman to feel empowered and be in control of my own sex life.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it!
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