What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 42
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? UK
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Manager
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
The Abi Affair
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met Abi at my work Christmas Party. We were introduced on the dance floor and there was instant chemistry. She had long jet black hair, was short but had amazing big brown eyes and was very pretty. She looked a little overweight but I quite like that. We didn’t speak much (as the music was loud) but at the end of the evening she was getting a taxi home and made it clear I was welcome to join her. I politely declined as I was married (she hadn’t spotted my wedding ring!) and also I was staying in a nearby hotel with my boss and he also would have noticed if I had snuck off. Besides which, the company frowned on relationships between colleagues and I was a manager there. I had to set an example, at least in front of all of the company!
She asked for my number and we began texting that night. I offered to buy her dinner the following week, just socially. I stayed away during the week as my job was far from home and I got bored of eating alone. I just wanted a dinner companion. As it turned out, I got a lot more than dinner! Luckily I had prepared and bought some condoms, ‘just in case’.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We agreed to meet in a few days. We had a pleasant but unremarkable dinner in the hotel where I was staying, but the chemistry was still there and she was being a little flirty. We had a few glasses of wine and she started to get a bit tipsy. After the meal, she said she was uncomfortably full and asked if she could come and lie down for a bit in my hotel room (!). I agreed, of course, still not expecting anything else. Yes, I am obviously that blind!
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She lay down and didn’t move. I made her some tea to help with the digestion. I’m still not sure what was going on. I made a jokey lunge to kiss her (hedging my bets) and she flinched. Then I thought, I might as well go for it and I kissed per properly. She responded. I started to kiss her neck and she shuddered and gasped loudly, I had definitely found one of her erogenous zones! I slowly took off her clothes. She had the most amazing breasts, smooth, firm and quite large with big pink areola. When I kissed them, her nipples were hard and she moaned with pleasure.
I took off her panties, looked at her cute pussy and how wet she was. I teased her with my tongue and she came so quickly and easily. She then wanted me to finger her – no one had ever asked me to do that to them before. She just shuddered, orgasm after orgasm. I had never met someone so orgasmic in my life!
I took off the rest of my clothes. I was so hard and ready to fuck her. She was so sopping wet, I entered her so easily and thrust into her. I was worried that I would come too quickly, but before I could she suddenly froze in a way that nearly pushed me out of her. I asked her what was wrong but she didn’t reply. I carried on fucking her and it happened again! And then again! It turns out that when she comes during sex, this is what happens! It helps with ejaculation control but it can be frustrating.
She had come so much she asked for a break as she was getting too sensitive. We chatted for a while and then I fucked her again. This time I was able to keep going and shoot what seemed like a river of come inside her as all the longing and frustration was released.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We lay together for some time before she got up and she called a cab to go back home. The next day we carried on texting and sneaking furtive glances at each other when she walked through my office. The thrill of no one else knowing what was going on was delicious.
This proved to be the start of a tumultuous four-year affair. Thankfully my work colleagues and my wife never found out (luckily Abi changed jobs a few months later) I’m glad it is now over but I still miss her. I have so many stories about Abi.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told one close friend about the affair. He had done something similar in the past so he understood and he gave me some good advice.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How orgasmic she was. She is still the best lover I have ever had and she said the same of me (she had slept with a lot more people so this was very flattering, even if she only said it to please me!)
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I felt guilty for cheating on my wife, who didn’t deserve that.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was not something that I had ever considered before. The sex was so much better than at home. But I’m not sure I am cut out for casual sex! It turned into something very much not that.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? This was the first time we hooked up. I may share some other stories when I feel ready.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s OK providing people don’t get hurt. It is more common than most people think. I have heard friends sharing similar stories.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s a great site. Some of the stories are very arousing!
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