by Alexander Jameson
Gender: Male
Age: 25

Race/ethnicity: African-American
Location: Southern California
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Corporate Sales
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

The Almost Threesome

How long ago did this hookup happen? Two Weeks

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’ve known this girl since high school, I had dated one of her friends in the past and I’d always thought she was cute. She’s 5’6” with a very cute face, and a great body; I’m not into the skinny, BS Hollywood type, I like a woman with some curves and she had curves for days. We’d hung out in groups before but had never progressed past pleasantries…until tonight. For the sake of telling a clear story I’ll call her ‘Rose’, an obvious pseudonym.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There was absolutely no planning involved, zero. ‘Rose’ and I have a mutual friend in common who I have a long sexual history with, we lost our virginity’s to one another in high school and continued our relationship through college and beyond, we’re obviously close and it was her birthday. ‘Rose’ lives near me so I offered to give her a ride, I’d done this times before when she’d come out with us so it wasn’t out of the ordinary; my attraction to her was strictly physical, I’d always found her to be aloof and a bit boring, not the least bit my type. We gathered with a couple buddies of mine to pregame for the night and planned to meet up with our mutual friend at a bar later, where she was already out with friends, who goes out at 10pm anyway? After an hour or so of drinking, we head out and our mutual friend is looking gooooood, I mean really good. She walked right up to me and grabbed my crotch…it was on.

I was feeling particularly bold that night, I’m generally pretty confident but drunk me is downright cocky and I know it, I had one thing in mind: threesome. I asked my friend if she’d be into one with ‘Rose’ and she, shockingly, responded favorably, even smiling at the prospect. “You know ‘Rose’ is bi right?” “Uuuuhh, no, I didn’t know that, but thank you.” I walked right up to ‘Rose’ to gauge her level of interest and it was sky high…it couldn’t be this easy, could it? I started flirting with ‘Rose’, innocent stuff, my hand on her leg, making her laugh, it was all pretty basic. Our friend felt it was anything but and promptly flipped shit on me and stormed out on her own birthday celebration. I swear some people shouldn’t drink. ‘Rose’ came back to my friends place and we went straight to the bedroom to ravage one another. It was fun sex but forgettable.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The sex was fun but it’s always a little awkward your first time with someone. I’m pretty aggressive and kinky in bed, but even drunk I don’t like to break that out if it’s the first time I’ve had sex with someone. Unfortunately ‘Rose’s’ personality in bed matched her personality out of it: aloof. I’m not one to fall in love easily but I at least like to look someone in the eye while we fuck; she was into the sex, moaning and what not, but she was simultaneously distant, like she had something else on her mind the whole time. On about our third position she exposed her throat to me and I reached right for it and gave her a light squeeze, met by a “harder” plea from her. It got more interesting from there, especially once she got on top, she knew what she was doing and was having a good time doing it, she still wouldn’t look me in the eye though. I finished behind her in doggy, one hand on her throat and the other pulling her hair. We laid down for ten minutes before going again…and once more after that.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We didn’t discuss much except how attracted we were to one anther. We didn’t use any protection at all, we discussed pregnancy briefly after the fact and we agreed she would get Plan B and we would call it a day.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? There weren’t a lot of reasons for the hook up aside from mutual attraction and the opportunity to have sex, one neither of us thought we’d soon have again.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? There was heavy drinking that took place before our night out. We both had our fair share of alcohol.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had to drive her home the next morning and that definitely could have been better. We agreed to not tell our mutual friend of the encounter and chalk it up as a drunken night gone too far. We’ve exchanged a few texts since then agreeing she should get Plan B. We’re still on good terms, we would have no problem going out again together, hopefully bringing our friend back to bed with us if we were.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? The friends I’ve told haven’t reacted one way or another…we’re in our 20s and this shit happens from time to time.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Definitely consensual on both parts, but seeing as we were both intoxicated I’m not sure it was something we both ‘wanted’ to have to deal with after the fact.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I definitely regretted it because of the history I had with her friend, who I do care for in a friendly sense. Her friend, however, looks at me as someone she’d want to date one day and, while I’d never want to hurt her…

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best part was the sex, the worst part was the bullshit I had to deal with from our mutual friend who busted my balls for ‘flirting’ with her good friend. She never found out what transpired that night but she’s been suspicious ever since. It hasn’t changed how I feel about casual sex or one night stands, though I’m a big advocate of condoms and really beat myself up over not using one this particular night, kids or even stds…ain’t nobody got time for all that.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

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