by Candice

Gender: Female
Age: 30s
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Current location: France
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree
Occupation: Public Relations
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Passionate, open-minded, wild
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? One

The Australian Hunk & The Chinese Condoms Disaster

How long ago did this hookup happen? 9 months ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-night stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? W. was a tall and muscular Australian guy in his 40s, traveling around Asia for business. We met in a bar in Shanghai while I was taking a vacation there. He was nice, charming and educated. We didn’t have your typical bar conversation since we talked more about Chinese history than flirt.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had chatted a bit already when he came up to me at the bar and bought me a drink. All of a sudden, everything went very fast. He took my hand, kissed me once and complimented my French kiss technique. Then he took me out of the bar saying we were going to his hotel. I was a bit surprised, but found that very exciting and I just followed him in the taxi.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We got naked instantly and I went down on him and was surprised by the big size of his dick that could barely fit in my mouth. He ate my pussy and my ass, flipped me on the bed and made me do a 69. He tried to convince me to do it without a condom, because he only had Chinese condoms which were too small for him and “always broke.” I refused and he got inside me in the missionary position with my legs around his neck. He started talking dirty and I was a bit startled, as it was the first time I had sex in English and didn’t know how to react. The condom broke and while he was changing it, I rolled on my belly. He fucked me from behind then, without a warning, tried putting it in my ass without any success because I was just too tight. He grabbed some moisturizing lotion and fucked me hard for ten minutes. His dick felt huge and I had the feeling he was going to tear me apart. Eventually, the condom broke and he had to get another one. I got on top of him and he talked even dirtier. He kept on asking me to “rank him” compared to my other lovers and compared me to another French girl he had sex with. The condom broke again and we went back to doggy style with a new one. He came and told me not to worry because he was going to “fuck me all night” before falling asleep.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? We both came.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used three condoms, but they all broke and it made me freak out about catching something. We hadn’t discussed STI history, but as he was a business traveller, I guess he was having a lot of hook-ups frequently.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I wasn’t necessarily attracted to him at first, but I liked that he took the the lead in kissing me and instigating the hook-up. His self-confidence made me horny.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? We both had our shares of drinks on that night and I was quite drunk.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Actually, while he was asleep, I got sick in his bathroom. I cleaned it up, got dressed and left after a quick good-bye. I could tell he was pissed, as he didn’t even say a word. We didn’t exchange contact information nor talk about meeting again.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my best friend and confidant who knows everything about my sex life and never judges. He was there in the bar when I met W. and was surprised to see me leaving with him since he didn’t find him that attractive compared to my usual partners.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was consensual for both.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I regret a bit, as I wasn’t that attracted to him to start with and even tried to hook him up with one of my friends because at first I wasn’t interested. Also, the sex was good but not that great. I got tested afterward and was found to be clean, but I would have deeply regretted this hook-up if I had caught an STI with that guy.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was that it was my first experience having sex in English. I also liked that he had a big cock, but the condoms breaking constantly kind of ruined the mood.
I didn’t like that he compared me with his past hook-ups during sex. I found his attitude a bit disrespectful in general during bedroom talk. I realized that we just didn’t care that much about each other since we had just met. After him, I had hook-ups with guys I already knew or with whom I felt some kind of connection and it felt way better.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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