by HR

Gender: Female
Age: 20
Race/ethnicity: White
Current location: New Orleans
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Occupation: Student/Intern
Relationship status: In a relationship
Religious affiliation: Catholic-ish
How religious are you? A little
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? straight
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? a solid dozen
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? zero

The Bedside Jerk Off

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years ago

How would you best classify this hookup? one night stand

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My first and only time going to a bar underage! We were dancing and then it was like “well, lets just go have sex” kind of random, stupid thing. I had just gone through a break up. Before I went home with the dude, my friend gave me some pulls from her bottle. I wanted to hook up with this guy, but I also wanted to be really drunk. We took a bus back to his dorm.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Vanilla, boring sex and then SUDDENLY there was a dick in my butt. I am not joking. Being you know, an incredibly savvy 17 y/o (ha) I informed him “well you are not putting that back in my vag now! that is how you get an STI!”

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? No. He did, because once I told him finishing with me was a no go, he jerked off in bed next to me. Cool move. His roommate was let in shortly after.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? Well, the whole “don’t double dip” lecture. Also, there was a condom. I think it was blue. He texted me the next day and asked if I was clean.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was pissed at my ex and hadn’t had sex in a while.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol oh yeah. Wasn’t incoherent, just suuuper tipsy.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? There was cuddling that was soooo much better than the sex. He walked me downstairs, got my number & added me on Facebook. Saw him almost two years later at a club in a different city. Avoided contact.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? All my close friends. They were amused and mildly surprised.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? For sure.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Nah, if nothing else it’s a good story.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The cuddling, man. 
The worst- the accidental anal. 
I think it changed my views of sex to it being a more casual, fun thing rather than something really serious.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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