by Carrie

Gender: Female
Age: 27
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Washington DC
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Reporter
Relationship status: Engaged
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? A little
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Straight but experimented with a woman
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? Two

The Body Builder

How long ago did this hookup happen? Began Four Years Ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends With Benefits/Fuck Buddies

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Scott was a body builder, six two with huge muscles and short brown hair and a number of tattoos. He was about six or seven years older than me, I was twenty-three then. He was handsome and charming and really motivated me to work out. Two years of dating a chef and great cooking had left me about thirty pounds heavier than I had ever been in my life. I was quite curvy, bordering on overweight so I bought some work out equipment, weights, a treadmill, etc to get in a lot better shape. I had gone to a local gym and hired someone to come show me how to use the equipment and help me work out, and Scott was who had shown up. I was pretty attracted to him even at first, he was very different than men I usually go near.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had been working out for about two months with Scott, had settled into a routine. He was spotting me during some weight lifts, and I have to admit I was pretty turned on being so close to all those muscles and such a strong man. I would often make mistakes on purpose while working out so he would have to adjust my form and touch me.
He finished spotting me early one afternoon and I pulled him into a kiss, the second time I had done that. He kissed me, and we made out a bit and I asked him if he wanted to fuck me and he said yes.  Thinking back I was wearing only a sport’s bra and tight work out pants so I was really asking for it.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He was very strong, and I had planned on taking him to my bedroom but we made it as far as the dining room table. He turned me over and pulled my pants down and penetrated me from behind. It felt incredible, it had been a while since I had been with a man. He grabbed my arms and held me, a bit rougher than I like but I went with it. I am still surprised I did to this day what I did.
He came quickly and pulled out of me, I think he was embarrassed. I pulled my pants back on, and offered him a drink which he accepted. He then asked for a shower and I joined him, a lot of kissing and touching and playing with each other but no intercourse. We then went to my bed where we fucked again, this time in just missionary. Again he was very strong and forceful. I came this time, he was quite proud of that and he did as well. Afterwards we cuddled for a bit and he left in the late evening and said there was no charge this time.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I had some condoms left from my last boyfriend and I have been on the pill for years, but other than that STIs never came up that first night

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was very attracted to Scott and it had been about eight months since I had had sex. I was really horny.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Scott had one beer I gave him after the first time we fucked, other than that not at all.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I worked out with Scott for about two years, if we felt like having sex we would which was quite often. I got in really good shape, best of my life. It was never more than just sex and I have always suspected I was not the only client he was fucking. I never planned for any kind of future with Scott, I just enjoyed the sex. I finally ended it when I got involved with the man I am currently engaged to.
Overall I am very grateful to Scott, I have found I need sex on a regular basis to function and he did this for me. After that first time he was a lot gentler with me and always eager to try new things. If I was single I would look Scott up and sleep with him again.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Never really told anyone but one of my friends always said she knew I was getting laid on a regular basis

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? For both of us very much.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Great sex with a hot man.  Nothing really bad about it. What did change during this hookup was my diet, I ate a lot healthier while involved with Scott. I was also working out so much my body became very toned, to the point I was bulking up. It is the best shape I have ever been in, but I have let it slide a little and allowed my figure to become a bit rounder and more feminine. I was starting to look like one of his gym bimbos. I learned wanting and enjoying sex was ok and that’s what changed about me the most during this hookup.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

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