Current location: NJ
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? Very
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? Active.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 47
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
The Catholic One Night
How long ago did this hookup happen? Three days ago
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One-Night Stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Todd was handsome. Really handsome. Handsome in that douchey Hoboken Upper West Side bullshit handsome. Embodied the upper-class-only-child-ivy-league cliche. Tall, but not gargantuan. Fit, looked a bit Jewish. Fabulous teeth, these blue-yellow eyes that could make you fall over immediately. 33. Texas-born, Washington D.C. resident. Traveling technology salesman.
I didn’t know him at all. We’d never hooked up before. We met at a bustling club at the Venetian in Las Vegas on my second to last night of my first voyage in Sin City. How did I feel about him before? Nothing really, he didn’t even register on my radar.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Todd saved me from a crazed Las Vegas drug lord who wanted to do coke near or on or something to do with my asshole.(?) Still trying to make sense of all of that. My phone was dead, my friend was MIA, and I thought I was going back to Harrah’s to have God know’s what done to me. He simply walked over to me and whispered how beautiful he thought I was, grabbed my hand, and started spinning me around. I’m talking real craft. Ballroom dancing shit. In the middle of one of the biggest (and dirtiest) clubs in Vegas. I couldn’t help but giggle. I finally reconnected with my friend as the club closed and he asked if I wanted to go back and gamble with him at Caesar’s. I saw a chain under his shirt and felt compelled to see what was on it. I expected a Jewish star and was overwhelmed when I came upon a medallion of St. Christopher, the patron saint of traveling. I grabbed his hand and marched to the nearest cab.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After kissing in the cab over to Caesar’s, we traipsed down the long corridors of the Roman Disneyland. We arrived at his PALATIAL suite (my entire two-bedroom apartment would’ve fit inside) and got into bed. He went down on me, I went down on him. As he got closer to entering inside of me, I asked him to grab a condom. He said to wait a minute. For the life of me, I don’t know why I didn’t stop him from continuing, because he never went and got it. He tried to have anal sex with me but I was in no way ready to do that. I started giving him head and I realized he fell asleep.
Obviously I felt awesome. I wanted to get up and leave but I looked like 50 shades of grey and had no cash and a dead phone. I slept for an hour or so and snuck over to get my clothes so I could leave. I was sure that he would wake up and freak out upon seeing me. (I’m gorgeous but not quite the Hoboken-Ivy-League-Douche type.) The next thing I know, he grabbed my wrist and said “Where are you going?” Luckily, Sleeping Beauty made up for his blunders the night before. He warmed me up, stretched me out, and fucked me forty ways to Sunday. I almost cried out ‘Alleluia.’ This man really knew how to fuck. We had anal sex and it was the first time it was not only successful, but out of this world.
THE BEST PART of the whole situation was after he finished. He finished in my mouth/face and went to the bathroom to get a warm towel. He put the towel between my legs, cleaned up my face, and gave me a full body massage. What?
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes, 7 times. Yes for him, once. Sort of confused about that. He was a bit older than me. I’m sure he took viagra. Dude was rock hard the whole time.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? He pulled out.
He didn’t use a condom.
I’m going to my OBGYN next week to get tested.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was in Vegas. I was playing dress up, pretending to be someone else. I work in a Catholic School and conduct elderly choirs on the weeknights. Vegas and everything it entails is the farthest thing from what resonates with me.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol. I don’t think TOO much, I mean, I never blacked out, but I was pretty drunk.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, we took a shower and he walked me downstairs to the taxi line.
Oh wait. I googled him first. (You can do anything with a location, full name, and google)
Turns out he was/is married. I nonchalantly brought it up and he mentioned he WAS married. I don’t actually believe that. How do I feel about him now? I feel very little. The sex was likely the craziest of my life, but it started on weak foundations and I’m pretty confident he committed adultery. That disgusts me. Oh, and upon packing up my stuff, I saw that he had condoms in the room and just elected to not use them. Why the fuck would someone do that?
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my friend who I went to Vegas with. She was proud. Isn’t it funny how we do that? Oppositely for her, she had “awful awful sex.” She asked me to recant the story for her so she could at least enjoy someone else’s story.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Consensual for both of us, yes.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I regret not using a condom. I just don’t know this person.
I also regret that he may be married. I would never have gone back with him had I known that.
Other than that, I did enjoy myself thoroughly.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was how he took care of me after he finished.
The worst was that he didn’t use a condom.
The hookup hasn’t really changed anything about how I think about sex. I’ve had some pretty different experiences with sex, from horrifying to hilarious.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? The largest penis on a white man I’d ever encountered. I’m still not walking straight.
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