What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Sexually fluid
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

The Chasm

How long ago did this hookup happen? 7 months ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was very tall and very attractive. He had warm brown eyes and was well hung. We had known each other for about two months at this point and had been hooking up casually about once a week. Our first date turned into a hook up and it continued from there. Nothing changed after the hook up. I liked him, but wasn’t interested in anything more.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup began in the car. We met up with the intentions of hooking up. He picked me up from my dorm in his BMW and we began driving to the beach. Before he picked me up he casually mentioned oral sex while driving.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? While driving to the beach, I gave him oral sex. It was a huge turn on because it was something new and exciting and there were risks present. I stopped just short of him getting off and we made it to the beach and parked the car. We then went for a walk along the nature trail next to the beach and ended up on a bridge above the chasm. He pushed me up against the bridge, pulled my panties down and my skirt up, and began giving me oral sex. He then lifted me up and began to thrust into me while holding me up against the railing of the bridge. It was incredibly hot to be dominated like that, especially outside. Eventually we both came. The only downfall is at some point he kicked my shoe off the bridge so I had to walk back barefoot.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt great after the hookup. It was satisfying and fun. There were no expectations and that’s what made it enjoyable. When we wanted each other we reached out and had fun. I feel the same as before.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high

What substances did you consume? Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to a few friends about the hookup. They all found it to be a very amusing story.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was fun and adventurous. I got to experiment and be sexually satisfied.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I lost my shoe in a chasm.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It solidified my thoughts on casual sex. Casual sex is fun and can really help someone become empowered within his/her sexuality.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is important for many people. It can really help you define yourself in your sexuality and learn what exactly you do and do not want in a sexual partner. I don’t believe it should be stigmatized in any way. It happens very frequently and the notion that casual sex leads to emotional pain is simply a gross generalization.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think the Casual Sex Project is very important because people should be able to openly talk about their sexuality and experiences.

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