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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 52
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Ohio
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Teacher
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 70+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

The Conference

How long ago did this hookup happen? 12 years

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was in a couple of classes I had taken to keep my teaching credentials up to date. We didn’t really know each other very well as the classes were fairly large and involved teachers from many different cities that got together once a month. We all learned each other’s names because we had to work in small groups but that was about the extent of our interactions. I got to know the people I sat with every time better than I got to know her because she usually sat with other people.

She was outgoing and I found her attractive, kind of energetic with a laidback hippie vibe. She had long curly brown hair, small breasts, was thin with wide hips, and about 5’9″. I am 6 feet. I always checked her out when I would take a bathroom break because she often wore jeans that rode low on her hips and I could sometimes see the waistband of her panties which is a turn on to me.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? About six months after our class ended my professor asked me to be on a panel at a conference to give our benefactors the students’ point of view. When I got to the conference, she was sitting at the table with our professor and I realized the professor had asked her to come along as well.

After the keynote speech and a workshop presentation, we had a few hours to kill and she suggested we go have a drink before dinner. We went to a nearby quickie mart and got a twelve pack and headed back to my room where we proceeded to have the beers before dinner. She promised me I did not have anything to worry about as she knew I was married; I was both relieved and bit disappointed at the same time about this. I wanted to hook up with her but my good guy side knew this was not a good idea.

She told me about her marriage that had ended the year before. Her ex was a dick that treated her like shit, etc. We were almost late going back to dinner but made it in time and drank more through our meal with our professor and some folks from our class and headed to the bar afterward…
I still was not thinking we were hooking up after dinner when she suggested we go back to the quickie mart for some smokes. We sat in my car and smoked and talked and decided to head back to my room for another beer (it was pretty late by this time). It was like we were in our own world as nobody from our class knew we were hanging out and we were far away from anyone else we knew. We were in a little capsule of our own adventure.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? In the room, she admitted it had been over a year since she had gotten laid, which broke down a barrier though I still played it cool, like nothing was happening. She lifted her shirt and showed me her small breasts which broke down another barrier, she took her shirt off and I told her I wanted to kiss her. This whole seduction after smoking in my car took at least an hour or more as we both were being careful not to go farther than we both knew we should because I was married. She wanted to get fucked but was trying to be respectful of my marital status and I wanted to fuck her but was also trying to be restrained.
Eventually, all this teasing led to us being on my bed making out. I told her I was fine with just making out but would fuck if she wanted to. I stayed away from her pussy and just kissed her and licked her nipples at first. Eventually, I kissed my way to the zipper of her pants and touched her mound through the fabric and could feel the heat and wetness of her arousal. It was at this point that she asked me to fuck her. I pulled her pants off and played with her pussy through her panties teasing her… she was very wet. I grabbed a condom and she got on top and rode me slowly to two orgasms before I finally came.
After we went outside and had a smoke we went back to the room and she blew me to get me hard and I fucked her again from behind. She was very vocal the whole time, moaning loudly.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day I was fine with it as was she. We had both helped each other out and it was our little secret.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish

How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Being in our own little bubble

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I am married

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We did a follow up 6 months later but it wasn’t as good, it was too planned.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Important

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Important

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