by ann

Gender: Female
Age: 21
Race/ethnicity: Hispanic
Current location: Florida
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: Entrepreneur
Relationship status: Engaged
Religious affiliation: Catholic
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? A few

The Cowboy Rides Away

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends with benefits

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? The cowboy, he is 5’7″ beautiful eyes and sexy smile. I knew him very well but didn’t expect him to do what he did. Yes we have for 3 years. I met him at a horse show. I was attracted right when our eyes met for the very first time.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? It was at a 15th birthday party. Big deal for everyone else, but for me it was the food! As i walked towards the table i noticed A cowboy(not the one i hook up with) starring at me, he looked like a movie star probably the most handsome guy there. I felt awkward he was just way too good lookin’! The night went on and i started a fun conversation with a cousin until i looked to my right to find my boyfriend but instead spotted the cowboy with a beer in his hand. My body started shaking, i felt nervous, confused, worried and on top i was getting wet! My legs wouldn’t stop shaking. It was a cool night but i was burning inside my heart beating like never before. I couldn’t ever swallow my saliva. I just had to leave the place but before i did i said goodbye to everyone and i left the cowboy for last. He had ignored me( which is so him quiet type by the corner just staring and expects everyone to say hi to him instead of him saying hi to everyone else), my payback was simple go up to him place my hand in his chest kiss him say goodbye as i walked away i slightly caressed his chest. “It was great seeing you” he said but i just waved my hand in the air and kept on walking didn’t look back. I was shocked to see how smoothly that went so sensual like in the movies and heck i don’t even know how to flirt. That night he sent me a message saying ‘why did you leave? And i want to spend the whole night with you’ too late i replied you didn’t stop me when you could, your loss. I waited a few days but i needed his sex, this was addiction more then anythin.   He picked me up in his truck.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? And on our way to the ranch we talked and i told him i loved being with him to which He replied ‘you know i do too but we are from two very different worlds and there just can’t be any feelings. My uncles are you mother’s uncles too. I know you care but you just can’t’ he was right. So we ended in the back of his truck. He got all naked and laid down. I sat there and he asked what was i thinking and i started telling him how this was so wrong and he said it wasn’t. He said it was something we both wanted and loved. We probably talked over an hour  I told him my goals and dreams and he literally listened to me and said i was such a good person. He laughed along with me and i looked deeply into his dark brown eyes.he sat right across from me and as he smiled i told him he looked like a child ‘no i don’t’ he said. I assured him he did with those playful eyes and pretty  darn cute smile. He then told me to cuddle next to him and i laid there next to him i was fully clothed. I felt his chest then placed my head there. i think we talked more then we had sex. It was very intimate i asked him if he would ever get married again to which he said maybe one day and then asked if i would. I always asked him because he mattered to me. After talking for so long i gave him a blowjob which i know he loves very much and then we made love. Little did know this was going to be the last time i would ask him about marriage. I was so happy. He made me feel like i mattered not every guy has the patience to listen to a woman and her crazy ideas and stories but he did. And i felt that was a good turning point for us. I really believed.

Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes we both did, him two and so did i.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We don’t use protection. We are both clean

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Well i wanted him. I always do. Him i don’t know.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? nothing at all

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? what happened afterwards shock me like never before. We ended up hooking up twice again the last time  was at my place and after that he never talked to me again he even blocked me on facebook and then two nights in a row i dream with him all of a sudden. Only to find out on a monday that he brought his girlfriend from mexico and that she is here in town with him. Yeah that was fucking crazy! Excuse me for my language but it fucking hurted so much not the fact that his girlfriend was here i mean i knew he had a girlfriend but the fact that he did not have the balls to let me know and decided to do something very childish like never reply to my text and block me on fb too. I would send him a text to see how he was doing but he never replied. If he had told me what was going to happen i would have just left him alone, i thought we were friends, i thought he trusted me. But i never imagined this from him. It totally changed the way i believed in him. He used me, that’s what happened. It took me three years to see he used me.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A cousin of ours knows. He knows everything beginning to end.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? I wanted it. I guess he did too

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not it was amazing. I do not regret anything at all. It was a lesson well learned. A 3 year lesson. I will not forget him he showed me so much. I learned so much from him.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Everything was great. Yes it has changed the way i see sex. I always tought that i would love one man my entire life, i was wrong.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? Up to this day i have not seen him at all and i try to avoid him. Im always busy so that keeps me occupied away from family reunions and parties.oh i am happy about that because frankly knowing me i will confront him one day and i will nicely tell him what was that he did. Im a very nice person. And yes i have forgiven him, you feel good when you forgive and keep on loving.

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