What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 54
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York City
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Law
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (open)
Religious affiliation: Buddhist
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? No
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

The Cuckold Marriage

How long ago did this hookup happen? Two weeks ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? The partners were my wife and her boyfriend, with whom she’s been for five years. They hook up regularly; I only occasionally join them. They had met each other in a NYC playground, of all places. I was open to their relationship, though at times challenged by his increasing love for her.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Her lover suggested a threesome by which he acted as primary lover to my wife, and I in a supporting position – watching, taking photos, joining at their requests.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I prepared my wife for him in sexy lingerie, a thong and new shoes, while he showered. When he came in to the bedroom I withdrew to the side of the room while she went to him. They engaged in touching each other and oral sex for 20 minutes but surprisingly he was unable to perform. He then left the room, she brought me to orgasm, and when he returned I left. Later that evening, without my presence, they engaged in strong and satisfying intercourse.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We all felt discouraged the next day. I was disappointed he could not perform, he was humiliated that he couldn’t, and she felt stuck between her two men. He later admitted that when he saw her show love toward me, emotionally, he was unable to become excited. Once I left and her passion was directed to him, he performed very well to their strong sexual satisfaction.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? We discussed among the three of us, and I also chatted with cuckolded husbands on an online forum

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Do you regret this hookup? A little bit

Why do you regret this hookup? My interest in becoming more involved in my wife’s dynamic with her boyfriend wasn’t realized. They have resumed their sexual relationship without my presence, which I tolerate, but I desire more intimate involvement

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Seeing more wife looking very beautiful and open to her lover; it was a strong voyeuristic thrill

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? My particular cuckolding fantasy, including sexual submission to my wife and her liver, wasn’t fulfilled

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It temporarily destabilized my confidence in my developing sexual identity as a cuckold husband

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? The three of us are planning to try again

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex in conjunction with a committed partnership feels a natural part of our 17 year marriage. It’s generally accelerated honesty and open communication and added a lot of sexual excitement to a relatively long married with three children. I would like to see more social acceptance for this form of cuckolding marriage; in particular, it appears to be perfectly natural for a confident woman to enjoy multiple lovers in the framework of a strong and living marriage. It makes the marriage stronger.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This is a very cool forum to express different perspectives on sex and lovemaking.

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