by Nick

Gender: Male
Age: 35/29 Then
Race/ethnicity: White
Location: Boston
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
Occupation: Psychologist
Relationship status? Single
What is your religious affiliation? Catholic
How religious are you? A little
What best describes your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 23
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? A Few

The Drunk One Nighter

How long ago did this hookup happen? Six Years ago

How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One Night Stand

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was a somewhat heavy African American woman, early thirties with cornrow hair. I think she said her name was Allie, I can’t honestly be sure. I didn’t know her at all before this. We met at a bar.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The background is I am not normally the one night stand type (See The Cop, Freckles, My Son’s Mom) and am more of the relationship type guy. However I had literally just got my girlfriend of a little more than a year in bed with another man, chased him out and then told her to get her shit and her whore ass out of my apartment. I told her I was going out and to not be there when I got back.
I have never been one for the bar scene but I decided to go drown my sorrows. I was on my second glass of Scotch when she walked in and sat down next to me, a somewhat heavy African American woman. We started talking, she admitted she had just got her boyfriend cheating. We talked, flirted a bit and at some point she must have asked me to go back to her place.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? To be honest I don’t remember much about that night. I can remember some kissing, making out, us getting undressed. I can remember licking and sucking her breasts but it’s all in flashes. I was pretty drunk. I awoke the next morning with a hell of a headache and my face buried in her breasts. There are worst things to wake up to. I wasn’t feeling very good and climbed out of bed and that was when she woke up. She introduced herself as Allie and said I had been pretty good and she had enjoyed herself but she could tell I was embarrassed. I found condom wrappers on the floor, at least I had remembered to do that. I asked if I could use her shower before I left and she said yes.
Allie actually came in and joined me a few minutes later. Shower sex is not that practical, there is not a lot of room, but she had a large shower in her bathroom. We started kissing, got pretty handsy and I then grabbed a condom and entered her. We had sex in the shower, this I do remember. I was thrilled to be with a member of another race, a first for me at that point in my life. We actually both orgasmed. I then dressed and left.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I fortunately even as drunk as I was remembered to use condoms. I don’t think we discussed STIs at all.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was angry with my ex and had been drinking.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I had a lot of Scotch and I am not sure how much she had, I believe it was less than me though.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Allie had put her number.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Never really told anyone about this one.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? For both of us I feel so, although alcohol did remove any inhibitions.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? A bit. I was drunk and had sex with a stranger, something very out of character for me.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Best part was letting go and having sex, worst part is I don’t remember most of it. It’s a mistake I have been careful to avoid since.  Honestly I felt a little dirty afterwards, and maybe even a bit used.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? Going to be my last story I share for a while, any others I am not truly comfortable posting. Hopefully this helps with the research though.

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